Get an Adrenaline Boost
When you’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it can start to get boring and predictable. Doing something exciting with your partner to get your heart pumping and release some of those chemicals that get you excited about life. When you stimulate your body, your mind and emotions get stimulated too. Go to a theme park together, or go see a really scary movie. Act like kids and have fun.
Text Something Sexy
Every now and then, send a flirty, sexy text message to your partner to let them know that you’re thinking about them. It’s a great way to put a smile on his face, and who knows? Maybe it will turn into something more steamy. Delete afterwards, you don’t want your Mum or boss to find it later…..
Have a Good Talk
Long term relationships often start to look more like business partnerships than a loving, sexual relationship, so get intimate now and then to rekindle some of those feelings you both had when you fell in love. Every week try to have a real conversation that goes beyond the day to day stuff. Reflecting on the good times that you had when you first met or talking about your past can strengthen the bond between you and remind both of you why you’re still together after such a long time.
Show Your Gratitude
Sometimes it’s the little things that can make us feel unappreciated, so a heartfelt thank you now and then can really go a long way. Just show that you’re grateful for everything he does.
Take Some of His Chores Now and Then
Doesn’t it feel great when you wake up to find out your man took care of all the dishes while you were in bed? He’s going to feel the exact same way when you step forward and do a few of his chores when he’s busy.
Try Something New in the Bedroom
A study showed that almost 60% of married partners wished they had more variety in the bedroom. It’s easy for a couple to get into a routine, so suggest experimenting a little to heighten up the mood under the covers.
Give Daily Compliments
Even if your man knows how you feel about him, it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t like to hear it now and then. Tell him he’s sexy, attractive, or funny every day, and you’ll find that he starts to show more interest in you as well.
Ask for Advice
If you want to show your guy that you respect him, ask him for some advice for a problem you’re having. Ask him to show you the right steps to take, and then follow the advice. If it turns out to solve the problem, let him know about it.
Discuss Your Future Together
When you talk about your future together, it lets both of you know that there’s a strong system of support in your relationship, and that you picture him beside you for the rest of your life. Talking about getting old with each other, buying a new house, or traveling can strengthen your bonds and lead to increased intimacy.
When was the last time you really had a long kiss with your partner? Couples often keep up with everything else but completely lose sight of those long, sensual kisses they had when they first met. It’s actually been proven that couples who kiss a lot usually have more sex.
Make Sure You’re On the Same Page
A mistake that’s often made by couples is that they get a feeling of resentment when their partner doesn’t intuitively know what they’re thinking about. It’s romantic when it happens, but realistically you have to realize that your partner can’t read minds. If you want something, like a romantic dinner, ask for it and let him know you want him to do something for you.
Give Him a Surprise
Routines happen in every relationship, but if you let them go unchecked they can end up destroying that same relationship. Break up the monotony now and then with a little surprise. Call him up and say you have dinner reservations for two. Just do something he’s not expecting.
Really Ask About How His Day Went
Most couples give the obligatory “How was work?” at the end of the day, but do you really listen to what he’s saying? Pay attention to the details and then follow up with a question that shows you were listening.
Use Private Nicknames
Nicknames often come out of the dating portion of a relationship, when you were both playful and flirty, but over time they become more intimate because they prove just how long you’ve actually been together. If you don’t have any fun pet names, make something up and keep using it! It will make him feel great.
All couples argue about something, but it’s pride and stubbornness that ends up escalating those arguments into real fights. Take the first step forward and apologize before things go too far. Do you really want the tension and stress from an ongoing fight?
Leave a Little Note
Write down something short and quick on a sticky note or piece of paper and leave it in a place he’s sure to find it. Then, when he opens his lunch or checks his pocket he’ll immediately start thinking about you. The fact that people rarely leave physical notes anymore makes it even more special.
Send HIM Flowers
If you think flowers are just for the ladies, you’ve never been a guy. Their friends might tease them a little, but on the inside they’ll feel more loved than ever. Of course, it doesn’t have to be flowers. Any random surprise gift will make him feel great. He might just take the hint and return the favor!
Give Him a Massage
Giving your guy a massage will relax him and might even open the door to something more intimate. Just a tip: don’t ask for something in exchange for the massage. Just make it about him and the moment will be even more special.
Up the Competition
Playing games with each other is a great way to get closer to each other. I don’t mean the power plays and sneaky games a lot of couple games; I’m talking about games like Scrabble or Pictionary. This gives you a chance to put some fun competition into your life.