Im a bloke. Yes, he is gay.

There is a very sensitive area inside the butt, and you can also rub the very base of the c*ck from the inside there. My husband and I have been doing butt stuff on him since we were about 18-19, we're now 32. It doesn't mean he's gay or bi, it means he's getting pleasure from a place that gives pleasure. A woman isn't a lesbian because she likes her breasts or cl*t being played with; they're just erogenous zones.

You could take small steps up to pegging. Do these while you're doing other sexyfun things so you're feeling in the mood:
- rub his butt on the outside, either in the shower or with some lube.
- get a small butt plug (with a flared base!!!! You want something that will stop the plug from accidentally slipping inside the butt, Google something like "safe butt plugs with flared bases" to get an idea of what you're looking for). You could help put it in. He can wear it while he pleasures you.
- get a strap on and appropriate d*ldo but use your hands to move it instead of the harness.
- the whole 9 yards; use the harness and go to town on him.

It's ok to try it and not feel comfortable. Maybe there's some middle ground, if you're giving it an honest try and just really, really can't do it. Middle ground is something like having a butt plug that he inserts (out of your view) so he has it in but you don't have to think about it.

So I can deal with butt play, plugs etc BUT IMO if he wants fucked up the arse with a dildo that is bordering on gay. I understand it feels good bla bla (hence why I'm OK for butt plugs) but to replicate having anal sex is a little to far for me, he might as well get the real thing from a guy.

Deal breaker for me, i want a MAN a proper man, not a man who wants to pretend to be a woman and be fucked by his wife.

The poo element....I just can’t get over it unfortunately - even wearing gloves as someone suggested kind of makes it worse....plus hairy bum cracks...plus that ‘bum’ smell...not keen even if my partner was.

You’re lucky I’d love to peg my husband

Remember to use good lube, plenty of it, and one that's compatible with your toy(s). Silicone based lube is bad for silicone toys (it begins to break then down). Use water based lube. And seriously don't be shy about how much you need to use and if you need to reapply, a slippery butt is a happy one.

Use form-fitting disposable kitchen gloves if you're squeamish about getting something on your hands, and if not then make sure your nails are trimmed/smooth and you don't have any cuts on your skin.

Genuine question here. What about faeces? I think I'd be happy to try but that puts me off.

I want my wife to peg me too.

Agreed with everyone else, be glad he can be so honest! I would love to peg my husband but he is only just starting to let me play with his arse so after 15 years I'd say we have about 5 to go til we get to that point 😂😂😭

What does this mean?

I would be happy that he has opened up to you about his fantasy. That’s a really tough thing for any married couple to do. It could just be fantasy for him and talking about it might just be enough. If it’s a hard no for you that’s fine. But otherwise try exploring verbally during sex.
I have a threesome fantasy which I do t ever expect my hubby to fulfill but it turns me on so incredibly bad when he brings it up during sex.
Maybe there’s something you would like to try or fantasie about??

Not gay. I love pegging. It’s a great way to switch roles. To me it’s no different to role playing as the naughty maid. If you are comfortable with it, go ahead but find a small strap on to start with and remember lube. If you aren’t comfortable with it have a conversation with your partner and maybe he might find a plug stimulating enough.

I work as an escort and this isn’t uncommon. It doesn’t mean he is gay they just want to explore. If you’re comfortable and ONLY if you’re comfortable give it a try as you don’t want him getting so curious he goes elsewhere. Not saying this will happen but this is what most of my clients say