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Selling clothes my daughter won't wear.

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My daughters step mum buys my daughter clothes, unfortunately my daughter refuses to wear the clothes, she buys really horrible stuff. I have nicely suggested buying different stuff but she won't. The clothes just sit in the cupboard would it be wrong to sell it?


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1 year ago
Personally I would gift them to a charity job far from home as it would no doubt offend the mother. Or give them to friends or relatives.

Politely ask her not to buy anymore as she doesn’t wear them.

How old is your daughter? Does she wear skimpy cloths and the mother trying to discourage her daughter in doing so? Not that it means your daughter should change her style, if so it’s probably not a good idea to take your step daughter cloths shopping as that could start all kinds of drama.

It’s really nice of her to think of your daughter when cloths shopping. I am stuck the opposite as my step sons mum won’t buy him a single bloody item of clothing, not even socks lately and he is 10 and growing fast. Every time I buy things for my kids I am expected to buy stuff for him (it’s not spoken by my partner or step son but definitely expected of his mum, she comments on my kids clothing at changeover sometimes and points out her son needs some) it drives me insane as I buy my kids nice and usually brand name cloths and I can’t really afford to buy extra. My kids look after their clothing and it gets handed down to my Neices and nephews. I don’t want step son going without or resenting my kids because he doesn’t get anything although I often try and purchase stuff just after his fortnightly weekend here.

She got half the proceeds of their home after their split and my partner was left with bills. She drinks literally every weekend and is constantly talking about the new 60k car she plans to buy. All this is shit the kids don’t need to know about though. My partners opinion is that his ex gets child support and should buy step sons cloths!

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1 year ago
So you punish his child because you choose to spoilt your bio kids? Kids do not need designer clothes, I am sure kmart or target will do just fine and that way your step son will also have clothes. Why should he go with out because his mum refuses to parent?

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1 year ago
Infact you could buy clothes for him to wear only at yours even, that way he doesn't feel left out. His mum is obviously neglecting him if she wont buy him clothes.

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1 year ago
Seriously he is the father and needs to supply the child clothes how hard is it to buy your child clothes and take it out of child support. Better yet dob her into cps for neglect if she wont buy him proper clothing. Sounds like neither should have kids.

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1 year ago
The stuff is usually boys clothes so it could be a case of covering her up.

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1 year ago
Weird buying her boys cloths

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1 year ago
He can’t just buy clothing and take the money out of child support payments. It’s not the agreement.

The only time my partner has brought him several things in one go step son was told they stay at our house. Step son took them home in the end as my partner felt bad he had bugger all to wear. They got trashed, most likely because he wore them so often.

I find Kmart cloths crap quality, It is all I used to buy for daycare. Target has decent things sometimes but a lot is skimpy for girls.
I will never change what I buy for my children. Why would I? I said I buy something’s for stepson, it’s not my responsibility to supply these things for him.

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1 year ago
Also I don’t think I pointed out my partner and I don’t have kids together. We don’t share money. Step sons stays a weekend every fortnight. So I don’t think I should start buying all of step sons clothing regardless of what I buy my kids 😁

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1 year ago
Different poster. I buy my step kids good quality school shoes as mum doesn't buy much for her kids. I have clothes for them to wear here, I don't let them take it home before it doesn't come back.

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1 year ago
Infact a parcel of shoes I ordered for myself and my kids arrived today ... stepson texted his mum this afternoon to tell her my kids got new shoes & he didn’t, she immediately texted my partner having a go at him and she was told that I ordered online at **shop** for the kids and myself And there’s a sale if she has a look. Than she had a go at him because I purchased for myself and not step son!!!!

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1 year ago
I don't buy my step kids stuff, but I would never give my kids something in front of my step kids when I don't have something for them, that is just mean.

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1 year ago
Parcel was sitting on the front door step when we got home, the kids had it opened before I got upstairs as I got distracted on the way inside.
They called out asking me if they could open it and I thought they were asking to open snacks out of the groceries they carried upstairs so I said yes.
I put them all away when I got upstairs. There’s no way I would have even opened the parcel until Monday otherwise.

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1 year ago
Can’t you take them back to the store to exchange or a credit note

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1 year ago
Hahaha. Fuck yeah

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1 year ago
I tried, the tags are cut off and I don't have a receipt.

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1 year ago
Hahahaha. Bitch did it on purpose

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1 year ago
Lol. Sounds like it. What a moll

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1 year ago
I gave my sons baby clothes to my sister in law and she sold them online if she didn’t want them I would have given them to someone else but it didn't bother me to much

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1 year ago
Yes this is why I won't give the clothes away.

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1 year ago
Yes I saw my cousin selling most of the baby shower presents that were given to them, brand new. Not close to them but they made a deal out of everyone coming AND bringing a gift.
After that, I don't bother with them again ever again

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1 year ago
Being like that I am surprised your cousin didn’t ask for cash presents !!!

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1 year ago
I know! My cousin ask for actual presents (not cash) and comments about some people's present being cheap!

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1 year ago
Take her to donate them to the local dv shelter. They will get worn by someone that really needs them and it’s nice for those people to get new items sometimes.
Surely you won’t offend the ex and his partner; How can they quibble with that???? Make sure your daughter tells them what she did with them.

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1 year ago
Thanks, I have put most of it in bundles on gumtree.

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1 year ago
Also get your daughter to have a 'clothes shopping day' with her (after covid), so she can see her style

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1 year ago
^yes, and get your daughter in on it, as in to keep dropping hints as 'I like this...' and 'I don't like that...'

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1 year ago
Unfortunately my daughter has told them, and refuses to wear the stuff, so they know it doesn't get warn.

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1 year ago
bugger

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1 year ago
Maybe get your daughter to have a garage sale, selling only clothes from them lol then maybe they will get it

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1 year ago
I would donate them. Why risk possible drama for a couple bucks.

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1 year ago
What is the difference?

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1 year ago
Assuming she’s use the internet to sell it would be easily found out

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1 year ago
Unless they're brand name not worth selling, give them to vinnies

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1 year ago
I would give away not sell.

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1 year ago
Once you give something to someone else, then it becomes theirs to do whatever they want wirhZ. If your daughter is ok with it, sell and buy her new clothes with the $$

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1 year ago
Sell them