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Am I being taken advantage of?

Answered 8 months ago

I’m in a relationship with a much younger man.

He’s never left home before and only moved in with me because he knew his family wouldn’t approve of us dating. He’s in his mid 20’s.

He’s lived a fairly privileged life where he’s not had to worry about money as mum and dad have always helped him out. Which is great for him and I’d do the same for my own kids if I could afford it but I’m literally living week to week and some weeks are a serious struggle.

I pay all the household bills, he just pays his own personal bills.

He has little digs at me because I can’t afford to drop everything and go somewhere for the weekend or eat steak every night or buy take out whenever I feel like it.

Am I being taken advantage of?


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ANSWER
8 months ago
I would test him, ask him to contribute to household expenses and if he runs that says a lot

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8 months ago
He’s been asked and doesn’t contribute regularly

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8 months ago
Send him back to his parent's, then.

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8 months ago
Ask him to contribute to the household if he is living with you. Why should you have to suffer because he has moved in, he’s not your child?

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8 months ago
You didn't state how old you are. If a young man in his 20's tells you his daddy and mommy took care of everything, what makes you think he was going to be a man when he got to your house??? Are you looking for a real relationship or just some play time? Are either of you looking to be married?? If he's still trying to live the life of privilege, trust and believe you are not a part of that future. If he's only paying his bills, you are just his second mother. Move on like a real woman and strive to be better for You. Do not settle for a playmate. Do better by you, love you more!!

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8 months ago
I think you both have different priorities and he isn’t intentionally taking advantage of you but prioritising his own wants over the needs of both of you. It’s time for a serious chat to make sure you can both get on the same page so you aren’t always struggling or you need to let it go and move on.