Sending a big hug. If you need to cut him out then that's what you should do. A friends husband walked out on her and their three young children leaving her to cope on her own. He contacted her five years later apologising saying he just couldn't cope. She just laughed and told him to fuck off.

If it was up to me I would not tell my child he is coming as that creates an expectation which could lead to disappointment. I would arrange a day and time and document it. I would record in detail the times he made it and the times he could not and the reasons why. This documentation will assist you to get full custody and have him pay child support in the future. You don’t want him in her life because he is uncaring and unpredictable that is reasonable but you need to take the right steps to prove it, otherwise you will be blamed for not providing opportunity for access.

I got sick of similar shit like this with my daughters father. He was meant to spend 2 hours with her on Sunday because he lived out of town and that was the day he came in. We split while i was pregnant and she was breastfeeding. I clocked him at 9 minutes one day. Another day I got a message 20 minutes after we were meant to meet stating "the new girlfriend and I are watching movies so I'll see her next week." Every weekend was the same bullshit excuses. I got sick of it then he started trying to tell me he was taking her and wasn't going to bring her back every time I refused to bow down to his demands. Things like he wanted receipts for what I was spending child support on. Mate that whole $16 a fortnight isn't even helping to cover nappies, so no. I eventually got sick of it when he got the shits on fathers day because I told him he would have to come to the hospital because she was sick and he was trying to yell at me and say that he had more important stuff he could be doing. So I told him if he ever wanted to see her again he would take it to court. I blocked him on everything and changed my number. He had my lawyers contact details and even she rang him and sent him a letter and an email stating any contact was to be through her and that here are my demands, if he didn't agree he was to take it to court. Haven't heard from him in 3 years now and it has been fantastically peaceful.

Be strong. Your baby doesn't need an occasional father.

Get rid of the pig but make sure the prick pays child support.
Good luck but you won't need it - you sound like a very strong woman 😊

Isn't something better than nothing? You're meant to be thinking about your daughter not yourself. You can't just decide to cut all access it's not legal. Fathers have rights too. Just setting yourself up for a court battle.

Twice in 6 months is ridiculous. He has no sense of putting her as a priority. He may have been a terrible partner to you but that’s no excuse to be a poor father to his child. I wouldn’t contact him at all and wait to see how long it is if he decides to put in the effort and if it’s too long like another few months then just cut him out

Wow, twice in 6 months? He is already set a precedence. It won’t change so the best thing to do for your daughter cut him our. My own father was in and out of my life inconsistently throughout my childhood and it was painful.