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Ok tell me what a gaslighter is

Answered 2 years ago

Because i seriously think my husband is a gaslighter!
He lies about everything, he tells me I'm a bad parent, im pretty sure he's telling people he works with and his family I'm mentally unstable and on drugs, if he says something really nasty and later i bring it up he says that wasn't what he said he said something totally different but I'm twisting things. It's to the point where just talking to him makes me anxious. I can hear him on the phone telling his mum right now that I'm a fucking weirdo as i type this. If i ever express wanting to separate he threatens to take the kids and report me for my mental instability. I feel so sick


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2 years ago
Get out of there NOW

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2 years ago
Leave qith the kids when he isat work if u sont have mental health issues that arent under gp knowledge and being worked on u have nothing to worry about. Dont do drugs. Dont drink. Get ur life together.

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2 years ago
Start rwcording him its mental abuse

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2 years ago
I’m saying this with the most sincerity I can but unfortunately there’s no way to sugar coat this. He is emotionally abusive. You are being gaslighted. My ex was the same with a few incidents of physical abuse. I used to write down things and hide the notes away. It wasn’t until I ended it with him and moved I realised how bad it really was and why I acted the way i did. It got to the point for me where I had to message others to make plans because I didn’t trust my own memory.

You need to make a plan to leave. You deserve much more than this. See a lawyer, there’s a few free legal places for women around. Boom into your gp and tell them what’s happening, go see a psychologist or counsellor to help you get through it before it crashes on top of you. Don’t worry about his empty threats, they are worthless and a manipulation tactic to get you to stay. YOU DESERVE MORE THAN THIS! YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED! YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY! I can not stress those three things enough. Leave for you, leave for your children!

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2 years ago
^ wow that was really powerful. Hugs to you and hugs to the OP 💜

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2 years ago
This is a beautiful response. If you are in QLD, please check out Women in Legal (free legal advice).

All the best.

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2 years ago
Oh love. He's just an asshole. If I were you, I'd get in before he does anything and start looking at all your options. Is there any reason he would hold mental instability over your head? Sorry. I mean no offence but It needs to be asked 💜

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2 years ago
I was on medication for anxiety about 5/6 years ago

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2 years ago
A huge percentage of the population are on meds or have been at some point in their life. He has nothing to hang over your head. Please, go get some legal advice. He sounds like a controlling piece of shit, one step away from domestic violence. Goodluck babe xx

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2 years ago
Do you have any savings? If you don't start now! This is not normal behavior from someone who is meant to love you. He's meant to have your back & be someone you admire. He sounds like he's manipulating you severely. I could suggest counseling but it sounds like you may be passed that. It sounds ugly girl make a plan to get out.

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2 years ago
^ 10000%