How would your husband react to a drunk guy coming onto you all night?
Answered 4 years ago
I had a big guy cracking onto me all night, reckons id been giving him signals WTAF? I had plenty of friends around and they didn't see my signals. Anyway, he told me he wanted to have sex with me and i obviously declined, then he started calling me a cocktease etc do you know what my husband did? Absolutely f#@$ing nothing! I had other guys trying to protect me and get the guy away from me in the end. So pissed off at my husband! I want to feel protected and cared about - apparently he told this guy to "go for it"! Im so angry and hurt and the the idea that this guy could have potentially tried to rape me or god knows what (he did have me cornered at one point) and hubby didn't care or was too drunk to care? But if i have a go at him about it he just gets shitty at me and says "yep, as always, im the bad husband"
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Sounds like the OP husband is the same. Ignores his wife who was distressed and then chucks a tanty and tries to make her feel bad when called out on it.
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Why didn't YOU cause a scene if his man was making YOU uncomfortable? It's about YOU and YOUR reactions. Perhapse your husband disn't know if you wanted to be saved. Or if you needed help. Maybe he thought you were dealing with it okay. Maybe he was waiting for YOU to say something to him about the other guys behaviour. Men aren't mind readers. Obviously he already feels pretty hard done by in the relationship hense his comment. Maybe to the men you were giving out signals. Men and womens brains are wired differently. A touch a comment can all be interpreted the wrong way. It is up to YOU and you alone atthe end of the day to stand up for yourself boydriend, partner, husband or not they are not there to save you.
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Very true that men read signals differently, women notice a lot faster if another woman is hitting on her man.
My husband now would give the bloke a warning, maybe two and after that he'd teach him a few manners.
I'm glad I moved on from the gaslighting academic elitist pig and made way for my real man, one who i have true love and an unbreakable bond with.
Your husband was being an unprotective child and he needs to wake up to himself, you don't deserve shit like that.
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Your man was possibly intimidated by him. Why do we always feel the need to be protected? your hubby probably couldn’t protect himself from this bloke! Bringing it up constantly with the poor me attitude is not going to help the situation!
No doubt hubby feels shit enough already