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No I wouldn't donate and I wouldn't feel bad about it.
They can sell off their luxurious items.
If hubby lost his job he'd go and work for my dads company. If that didn't pan out we'd both try and get jobs (I'm a sahm)
And if that didn't work out we'd be screwed because we have just spent our savings fixing up our car
And how easily people are setting up gofundme pages for absurd reasons. I swear I saw someone sharing their gofundme page at my little towns Facebook buy swap and sell page. They wanted to raise money to buy a 7 seater, because baby #4 was on the way. I was like... WTF? Can't afford babies, don't have them!
Even if they didn't have all those luxuries i wouldn't donate, peaople have their own financial commitments and i certainly wouldn't expect my friends to donate to me. I'm all for helping a friend out in a difficult time but in other ways like inviting them over for a meal or offering to look after their kids for interviews or a day while they're at work but not giving them money. Offer to help them clean their house so they can sell it to find something more affordable instead lol
Man that is beyond rude! They should be selling luxury items. I'd only be helping them if they were completely destitute! Even then we aren't really well off enough to give money. I'd probably bake some meals for them or buy some essential grocery items
If they knew it was coming and didnt try to change anything to make it last longer id have no sympathy either. No 2 people "need" 3 cars. They can sell one.
Does he have any physical skills at all? Could advertise to weed gardens/mow/ simple handyman jobs. They could even offer a dog walking service.
Do they have any unneeded decent furniture or equipment that would still fetch decent money second hans?
1st thing i would have done if i knew i was being made redundant would be to apply for every single freaking job i could until something stuck. Once i had 'a job" id concentrate on finding one in my field if that job wasnt.
If i had friends and they werent trying those things above theyd be getting nothing from me.
We live pay cheque to pay cheque with a little bit saved in case we need it one day (saved from when i was earning more than quadruple what im currently earning per week).
If they were trying those things above i wouldn't just donate money id just use their services instead of doing it myself to help them out.
I guess what annoys me is that they knew it was coming, and pretty much didn't do anything different to try and save some $$.
Don't donate and don't even feel bad AT ALL! I would in fact it off anyone who asked for money and have done so in the past. You're not responsible for other ADULTS' lifestyle.
Our mortgage is low enough that we can get by on Centrelink. It would not be comfortable at all. But that would be our ultimate backup.
We’ve never been without work. We’ve both picked up work in hospitality when we’ve lost jobs. Or the job wasn’t paying enough.
Everything we have we own except our house. But our mortgage is lower than rent would be.
I’m not very sympathetic to people who “can’t find a job” there is always work. Always.
They can’t find a job they want is usually the truth.
We have a gofundme page that a friend set up for us when our son was diagnosed with leukaemia and it has been invaluable however we also sold my car to help cover costs and we certainly don't expect anyone especially friends and family to donate anything. My husband got made redundant and he just went out and found another job. It's not hard to sell off a car etc to help you cover bills.
I have a go fund me page for my 11yo daughter (to buy an insulin pump) but I have never and would never pressure, hint, or guilt trip friends and family to donate!!!
Dont donate, and don't feel bad about not donating. From what you have written they are not in dire straights yet, they have options (selling the boat, one of the cars, another job, etc). It honestly sounds like they are trying to get other people to pay for a caviar budget for them when they could get by perfectly well on hamburgers.
Just my opinion Hun. Have a good day!
One or both of them is just gonna have to get another job. I wouldn't donate either, and I don't understand why she's created a gofundme page because he is out of work. It makes it seem like he's lazy and wants to be supported to do nothing rather than actually get off his butt and work. Even if jobs are hard to find where you live, he can work away, or sell an.unnecessary luxury item. Or hey there's centrelink lol
This it what Centrelink is for. We already donate money through taxes. Apply for the fools like everyone else. They sound self entitled and not very appreciative of what they do have. Which is much more than most people.
If he is being choosy about employment, they can suck it up and sell the boat and one car which should do them until he finds something to his liking! No way would I donate, people are so entitled and irresponsible. Someone who doesn't have money for food etc; is another story. I'm in a hard position but sold my car, try to get extra work hours and continue to sell things when bills come in. I would be be so embarrassed to ask for help.