My partner and I are going through a rough patch. He just admitted that for most of our marriage on and off he has been
Answered 1 year ago
My partner and I are going through a rough patch. He just admitted that for most of our marriage on and off he has been unhappy and wanted to leave.
He also had an emotional affair and later admitted that he wanted to leave me for her but that the other woman didn’t want to leave her partner. He swears that things have changed and that he now wants it to work out. As I a fool to believe him? Please help me.
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Before i met him he was chasing a girl with no interest in him, i guess i came along and was a backup option. He cheated multiple times throughout this time. Sometimes he'd come home from a "weekend away with the boys" and announce we should break up, but by the end of the week he'd want us to stay together.
Being dumb and young and naive, we just let this cycle continue.
I now realize he was away with another girl, he thought grass was greener, want me to leave, but i guess the other party wasn't interested, so i there to "rebound" with. If that makes sense?
Anyway eventually we did break up. He is free now to sleep around, which he does, and he never makes any new relationships official or exclusive, everything is very casual to him. Im happy that he realised he's just not the long term commitment type. Maybe one day he'll find someone he wants to commit wholey too. But don't let yourself be someone's backup/rebound option!
We had two kids, i wanted to get married, he said too much commitment.
What he meant was why marry the cow when the milks for free and i can also tell everyone I'm not married and have all their milk as well?
How long ago was this emotional affair? I fear that there was more than emotions, as discussing to leave martial partners, they'd want to be pretty sure that that's a good idea (I.e.: they've done more than just emotionally support each other).
If he's spent so long back and something about leaving you, that's not going to change. Again, you're worth more.
I think it's time for you to take charge and look after yourself. He needs to go, love.