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Feeling helpless

Answered 8 months ago

I’ve been feeling this way for a while now, over a year, and I’m just not sure what to do anymore.
I honestly feel trapped in my marriage. I feel like I’ve made a mistake in getting married because now it’s even harder to leave. I’m so unhappy, and it’s because of him, I feel like he’s completely drained me. I feel like can’t be myself around him. I never really have been.
I’m realizing now just how different we actually are. We’ve been together 12 years, maybe I was blinded or just didn’t allow myself to see it. Every time I bring up how unhappy I’ve been he gets defensive and guilts me into apologizing.
I’ve got no idea what to do, where to go, I feel like I’m only staying because of the kids,
I can’t just leave we have 3 kids, even if I did leave, where can I go? I have next to no family support.

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8 months ago
Stop blaming him first. Look at things you could do to improve the relationship first, be completely selfless. Then if he still won’t reciprocate with meeting your needs seek counseling or separate. I’ve been where you are and I did everything wrong.

8 months ago
You don't have any friends that can help? Have you considered therapy?