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Sleep help

I don't know what to do. My 5 year old takes upwards of 3 hours to fall asleep. He's at school this year and I was hoping it would finally tire him out. It's just as bad, if not worse. I feel like I've tried everything. I get so frustrated with him and I hate the way I always end up getting angry at him. Tonight he was in bed by 7.30, it's now 9.20 and he is STILL awake. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Please?


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Try a night light and a kid friendly clock. We use one that turns blue at bedtime and yellow for daytime. Offer a drink an hour before bed followed by a snack. Cut out labels off night clothes.

Side note it is taking me ages to go to sleep lately due to the heat. It could be a temperature problem that might improve when the weather improves.

Melotonin from doctors

 Yep it works!
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Is he over tired maybe? If my son is passed the tired stage it's almost impossible to get him to sleep. Maybe try dinner and bed earlier?

See a paediatrician for help. Does he have any other behavioural problems? I’ve heard kids on the spectrum have trouble with sleep (not saying this is the issue here) just something different to look for. Or just seek help from an expert. Maybe a diff bedtime routine or cut sugars during the day etc. Goodluck


 Yeah i'm sure that would help him sleep idiot
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 Well he might cry himself to sleep
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 Yeah cause that’s a great idea. Do you like to cry yourself to sleep? 🙄
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 That will totally work, smacking solves everything
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No suggestions but I hope you both get some well deserved rest. You are doing an amazing job!

Does he get enough exercise? Eat enough at dinner time?

I got melatonin for my son it’s not working :((( so when you figure it out let me know I’m dying here!!!

Try bringing your night time routine forward by at least an hour and see if that helps, he may be overtired and missing his 'tired time' to be able to fall asleep.

I have always required much less sleep than the average person. As a child, it was all out war with my parents. I was happy to listen to music quietly or read. If your child seems like they are getting enough sleep take a cue from them. Maybe move "lights out" time back a bit? Or allow an hour of quiet time to read, journal, draw, listen to music, etc?
In my 20s, i was misdiagnised with insomnia. Finally, a sleep specialist explained what "sleepless elite" is and gave me some tips to make sure my body was given enough rest to repair and maintain itself. Lying down and playing soft music or white noise machine in a cool, dim room can be as restorative as sleep. Don't read in bed; have a comfortable chair or chaise to relax and read on. No screens for at least an hour before bed. No eating for at least 2 hours before bed.
My son and sister are on the opposite end of the spectrum. They both require the maximum amount of sleep reccomend. At 11, he tucks himself in by 9 almost every night without my saying anything. She took a nap everyday after school through college. I never saw her fight on bedtime.

Try moving bed time a little later. And have a routine, and follow it strictly every night. Turn off devices at least an hour before bedtime. This could be what’s keeping him awake. The constant stimulation. My kids have to lie in bed for an hour before bed time (8pm)so they can relax, chat to each other or watch a movie and finally drift off to sleep (9pm). It’s been pretty easy since I’ve made them do that. The older one wants to listen to music past 9 so I let him and he is asleep within 10 minutes.

Lavender oil. There is a spray you can get from the supermarket. I spray a little bit on their pillow when they are reluctant to sleep.

Try smiling mind app or other relaxation app that has ones for kids and target sleep also have dinner mega early and a bath before bed. And make the house super boring like in olden days lights off tv off nothing but a story and quiet

Epsom salts in the bath, a weighted blanket, no screens or strenuous exercise for 2 hours before bed. Good luck X