Need advice on what I can do about some kids that I know are being abused.
Answered 12 days ago
My daughter (year 9) has a friend at school. I haven't met her, but my daughter has told me some heartbreaking stories of things this girl experiences at home. Her parents are always yelling and verbally abusing her and her siblings. Absolutely horrible things. This girl is always texting my daughter and telling her what's going on at home. Apparently her dad is yelling at her brother so much tonight he's crying, he's in year 11. My daughter's friend has been sick for weeks but her parents refuse to take her to a dr and force her to go to school, but she said she'd rather be at school than at home. I don't know the parents. My heart breaks for these kids. I've told my daughter to tell this girl that she is welcome here whenever she wants. I hate these kids are going through this and this is their life. Home should be their safe refuge and their parents should be their greatest supporters and soft place to fall. I just don't know that there's anything I can do. I don't want to make anything worse for these kids, but if anyone has any suggestions at all I'd be happy to hear them. Maybe people who have lived like these kids, what did you want someone to do? Have you been in a situation like this, what did you do? Do you know of a situation like this? What happened?
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I am wondering if you suggested this looking for a bite considering it is such an absurd suggestion
The kids nine and while what’s going on could be serious , remember nine year old may take things out of context
Year 11 boys… maybe he’s rebelling and while the yelling may not be necessary it is definitely a hard time in a teenagers life and for the parents.
As for going to school sick, every second child seems to have a cold of some description lately and not every parent has the luxury of being able to keep kids home for every sniffle. If I don’t work I don’t get paid, my kids definitely go to school when other parents might opt to keep them home. Obviously I’m cautious of covid etc , kids are vaccinated and I do a test if they are sick, negative and off they go.
Clearly you are concerned but I wouldn’t really class this as abuse. If you talk to the teacher it will be escalated.
I would suggest organising a coffee date with the kids mum, ask to meet her with the intention of the girls having time together out of school. You can’t just expect to take the kid out of the situation, become friendly with the mother and go from there