My husband has ED and refuses to get it sorted To embarrassed I guess. been years together but I can’t cope with a sexle
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My husband has ED and refuses to get it sorted To embarrassed I guess. been years together but I can’t cope with a sexless marriage I feel so lonely and detached He works away but is home on weekends
Together 15yrs. 2 kids.
10 years ago he had a heart attack meaning he had to go on medication that’s effecting his libido I began to notice as the years went by his sex drive & erections were becoming non existent I know it’s common for his age 49 and on heart medication but it’s effecting his confidence to have sex or even foreplay with me when I try to initiate it he pushes me away He refuses any sexual contact iv tried talking to him about how it makes me feel and that I’m not happy Iv tried being patient, happy, angry, demanding, sad kind caring sympathetic iv even given him alternatives that if he doesn’t see a doctor I may have to consider my future with him But his pride his ego and his high end job seems to have higher priority than my happiness & this angers and saddens me I don’t want us to divorce nor do I want to cheat on him, I do love him but I’m so lonely and long for that loving connection I’m only 38 I’m scared if another man showed me any attention I’d probably go
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Turned out my husband was gay but we managed to work through it.
All good now.
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I have a very , I don’t know how to put it, people tell me everything. I don’t know what it is about me. Even people I just meet. I I would say more long term marriages have survived an affair than the latter.
I know who have had affairs have destroyed their marriage. And you just said ‘when they split they happily talk about it’. Yeah after an affair.
affairs, of course she knows ! Very possible she isn’t letting in. Perhaps she can live with it. Perhaps she is waiting for the right time to leave. Keep it up and sooner or you will get caught. You’re an absolutely fool to think otherwise.
He's being selfish not considering your needs.
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Have you considered confronting him about this? Maybe his new "friend" could spend some time with both of you to get things going again.
Offer him some backdoor and see what happens.