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Ive made a new friend who i thought was awesome and im a bit of a loner so its very unusual for me to click with someone as i have her.
Here’s the problem....
I met her teenage daughter at our last meet and my friend was talking about, favourite positions, anal, ‘begging bf to cum on my face’ and all sorts if graphic sex stuff WITH HER TEEN 😱
I was a bit put out to say the least and found it all very innapropriate, i also have a daughter the same age, and while we are very open about sex etc i do not and would never share graphic details of my own sex life with her..
What do you guys think? Am i a total prude? Is this normal behaviour? Do any of you give detailed accounts of your sex life with your teenage daughters/sons???
Im a bit turned of the friendship now, but not sure if im the weird one!? :/
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4 years ago
Well, how old is the teenager? While maybe that it too much sharing for some, perhaps they are just very open about their lives.
Some families are just very open about sex because it needs to be talked about and not hidden so people are safe, and so the kids don't think it's something to be ashamed of.
Ive had a partner who thought masturbation was disgusting and unnatural because of his upbringing. Maybe this mum really wants her kids to have healthy views on sex.
Discuss it with her anyway. Be like "gosh you guys are very open about sex. Why is that? I don't think i would be able to do it in my house"
And so on
Some families are just very open about sex because it needs to be talked about and not hidden so people are safe, and so the kids don't think it's something to be ashamed of.
Ive had a partner who thought masturbation was disgusting and unnatural because of his upbringing. Maybe this mum really wants her kids to have healthy views on sex.
Discuss it with her anyway. Be like "gosh you guys are very open about sex. Why is that? I don't think i would be able to do it in my house"
And so on
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4 years ago
Thank you, good advice :)
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4 years ago
I had a friend like that. She is a nice person but some aspects of her personality I couldn't put up with. She was a fellow school mum and we got on great at the school gate. Went out for coffees and lunches. All good. Things started to go sour when she invited me out with her and some relatives. I drink and love to dance but they were at a while new level. All married but that didn't stop them from dirty dancing with both girls and girls. Kissing and feeling them up on the dance floor. I ended up calling husband to pick me up when she came up to me and said I will be back just going out back to get me C U N T licked out and a good fucking by those two guys. Yuck.
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4 years ago
😱😳😵
I have no words ..
I have no words ..
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4 years ago
Boundary issues and its a red flag for me. Huge warning bells. She will talk that way around your daughter and husband believe me. Sometimes someone with boundary issues u do get close with straight away because they are less guarded and ready to be more authentic and open so u click immediately instead of taking a while to get to know them. If she has boundary issues then she will push your boundaries and possibly hurt u or take advantage of u
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4 years ago
Really helpful stuff, thanks
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4 years ago
Its not something I would do but I suppose everyone is different. Also depends on the age of the teen. Discussing that stuff with a 19yo is VERY different to discussing with a 14yo.
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4 years ago
Yes, agreed, the girl is 17
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4 years ago
Considering I would be talking about sex stuff I do with her dad because I don’t have sex with other men then no this is gross and inappropriate. Also depends on age, circumstances. If the mother is single and the daughter is older they might have more of a best friends relationship.
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4 years ago
Ugh, yuck. That's gross and inappropriate.
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4 years ago
It doesn't really matter whether anyone else thinks its disturbing or not, youre the one in the friendship so if it makes you uncomfortable then, well, theres your answer. I doubt your friendship will go much further. Lifes too short to put yourself in those situations just to have a friend.
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4 years ago
Sounds pretty gross (not the acts themselves, but talking about your private life so graphically) I wouldn’t want to hear about it, let alone include my teenage daughter in the convo 🤢
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4 years ago
I am super open but that's just way too much. Yes it's nice to be open about sex etc but holy moly that is insane.
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4 years ago
That is foul. Not appropriate at all.
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4 years ago
Not appropriate on any level and the “awesome friend” sounds like a total idiot
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4 years ago
Only you can decide if it's a friendship breaker. If everything else is fine, just say that conversation makes you uncomfortable or try to change the subject. It's gross, but not my business.
If it triggers further alarm bells on other things, like overall behaviour or respect of you as a person, consider if you want the friendship that badly. I, too, struggle to make friends so am not keen to write people off over one thing I don't agree with. However, I won't put up with being treated poorly or constant inappropriate or foul language.
If it triggers further alarm bells on other things, like overall behaviour or respect of you as a person, consider if you want the friendship that badly. I, too, struggle to make friends so am not keen to write people off over one thing I don't agree with. However, I won't put up with being treated poorly or constant inappropriate or foul language.
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4 years ago
That is highly inappropriate. End the friendship now.
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4 years ago
Get out. NOW
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4 years ago
That is very weird. Did her daughter react uncomfortably? If she didn't it kinda sets of alarm bells for me. Be very weary.
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4 years ago
No she didnt! She was equally in the conversation! Telling me how she loves her bf talking dirty to her during sex! And her fav positions!! 😱
I came home and mentioned all this to my daughter (not so graphic) and my husband and both were disgusted.
I came home and mentioned all this to my daughter (not so graphic) and my husband and both were disgusted.