My wife demands a lot of attention/affection. Even tho I am not the biggest affectionate person with her I have been the most ever in my life. I try to work on it as much as I can but she constantly has a hard time feeling like it’s not enough for her. I don’t know what to do?

We have been married for 3 years now. We are always close, I always tell her she looks beautiful and that I love her almost every day. I have always looked for ya to stay connected. She feels the man is the hunger therefore I should be coming to her, conquering her and romancing her. I agree to a certain degree but I tell her I also have things that are important to me. She hardly ever makes me feel desired, or hardly does she ever initiate intimacy. Difference is I work on trying to give her what she needs by acting on it on most days in small ways. She doesn’t work on the things I ask of her very often but she constantly breaks down about me not giving her what she needs. I’m left without knowing what to do and confused. I feel like she is comparing me to her last relationships where the men where all about her and lived for her in every way. There is hardly any tool to do much else in our marriage than to constantly worry if she has enough attention. I don’t have friends, I don’t do much of anything because only thing I have time to worry and fix is her. I even feel guilty if I spend time with my son. And if I ever do it’s full of questions and text messages about what am I doing and where am I and what time I am coming home. I love her I know she wants to be close but and so do I but this kind of attention/closeness doesn’t feel healthy or right. I feel it’s depleting me of being who I am. I don’t even know who that person is anymore. All my life is living for what makes her happy. I like doing things don’t get me wrong but man sometimes it gets to me. Ike’s both work full time, but I clean and cook most the time at home, I take care of the cars, the yard, I walk our dog and feed it. She helps too at times but gets upset with me when things aren’t done around the house given i have certain weeks off work. I don’t treat her that way If she has a day off or more I let her enjoy them. I don’t smother her when she does things.