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I’m livid

Answered 1 year ago

This is a rant more than anything
And I just wanna write a billion swear words.
My fucking husband found about $500 worth of Christmas presents and was like “oh guys check this out” to our kids when he found them.
He showed them 90% of this years Christmas presents.
What makes me madder is he doesn’t give a shit the kids would get one present if it were up to him, and he rolls his eyes every year at how many presents I buy them, but he lets them buy bloody rubbish from the top shop every bloody weekend that they don’t even care about and are all getting cos he said they could.
I actually buy them calculated things I know they will love of good quality.

He’s a little bit sorry but cos he doesn’t give a shit about Christmas he’s really not.
It’s my money I buy the presents with, it’s my thing and he’s done this.
Argh asshole. I’m so fucking mad.

I told him he’s buying the replacement shit to not make it obvious and I’ll still use some of the gifts, but I told them they were gifts I got for my nieces and nephews, but my eldest is nearing 8 , she will be sus if she ends up with those gifts from Santa.

I’m just ropeable.
That’s all. Just needed to vent . Sorry ladies.


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1 year ago
I’m sorry but your husband is an arsehat! Is he that stupid. If my husband found kids toys and didn’t know what they were for he would ask first and he is dumb when it comes to things like that sometimes.

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1 year ago
Stupid is a bit harsh. Obtuse. Lol.

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1 year ago
You quite literally called him stupid in a reply above but okay I like the word obtuse. Might even use that more often myself. I'm glad you were able to exchange some of the toys. Best of luck.

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1 year ago
Yes and stupid was a bit harsh lol.

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1 year ago
May I ask how you split the bills. My partner earns 300k and I’ll be earning 60k when I graduate soon. Would he pay 80% of the bills and me 20% for example?

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1 year ago
Basically.
So at the moment , I earn around 250k my husband earns 25k i think? I don’t know about 600 a week.
We’re mortgage free now so that’s gone, but I all of the household bills and cover most of the family holiday costs.
My husband pays for his phone his car and buys food as well but I buy groceries too.
all the kids activities are paid by me. He’s left with about 4-5 hundred a week to do as he pleases.
When I was a sahm and he was on about 35k I got centerlink so I would pay my car, and electricity and water he paid rent and groceries. Leaving us both with about $50 at the end of the week.

I don’t know it’s not an exact science we mostly just have what feels fair but it’s interchangeable too, just the other week I asked him to cover our daughters ballet. Or I’ll go to give him money for the fruit veggies and hell say nah iv got money.

It’s not like money doesn’t flow between us but at the end of it both of us are left with spare money that’s proportionate.

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1 year ago
Thank you.

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1 year ago
My husband did this a few days before Christmas. I hadn't wrapped the gifts and he thought they were just things for his kids to play with while staying with us. He had nothing to give his kids on Christmas day.

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1 year ago
Have you written about that on here before? I seem to recall reading about a husband who didn't get his kids anything and expected the wife to "step up" and donate him half the gifts she bought for her kids. Could be someone else.

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1 year ago
😞

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1 year ago
Lol unfortunately it was me.

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1 year ago
How are you a family but you don't have joint finances 🤔

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1 year ago
We haven’t since our eldest was 2.
We kept arguing about money. So I split the bills according to our incomes and we haven’t argued about money in 12 years. It works for us. And actually there are a lot of couple who don’t share finances.

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1 year ago
I will never share finances with my partner. Split bills and having my own Freedom to buy whatever shoes and handbags I want without checking first works for me 😁

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1 year ago
My ex would run up terrible debts with payday loans and expect me to pay them off when he already spent money on other shit. Or he'd remove money from our joint house saving account that only i was putting money into and spend it on alcohol and cigarettes. Never have joint finances with anyone

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1 year ago
^ sorry to hear that you went through that :/

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1 year ago
^^ good for you. However it works as long as it works!
We bickered when I was a stay at home cos hubby felt the pressure of “his money”
It stemmed from a different upbringing. He’s been mending himself from his raising so well, and we just try to take as many things out of the equation that he has to work through. One is money and shared finance. I grew up in a home with loving strong parents who owned their own business together so money was shared. This was my expectation when we had our son, but his upbringing was with an asshole selfish father who worked for himself and still only ever looks after himself:

Basically we set up the finances so the split was still the same but hubby felt he had ownership over a part of his life which is important for him as he grew up in third world. He has softened over the years, but allowing him “his money” was important as his upbringing had a big impact on him.

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1 year ago
I’d get the kids into something of his... if he has a hobby “ hey kids come check this cools stuff out” or take his fishing rod out fishing for the kids to use, them or let them into his shed and let them “explore” in his toolboxes 🤷‍♀️

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1 year ago
I’m far less angry now lol. I went to the shops today and was actually able to change over a lot of them.
I still can’t even believe he did it though. It’s becoming funnier now.

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1 year ago
How disappointing.
Gosh men are stupid some times 🙄

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1 year ago
I just can’t get over how fucking stupid he was, it was innocent he didn’t know they were Christmas presents for the kids he was just being a dopey dickhead.

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1 year ago
And his brain didn't tell him to think maybe it was for birthdays or christmas?

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1 year ago
Right?!?!? Lol

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1 year ago
My husband did that last Christmas except screamed Santa isn’t real at them

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1 year ago
Holy shit really?

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1 year ago
He would have had a very lonely Christmas had that been at my house.

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1 year ago
Wow. I couldn’t even. At least my hubby was just being a fucking idiot and it wasn’t intentional lol.

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1 year ago
Dude 😱

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1 year ago
My ex partner got drunk and showed my 11 year old he was getting an xbox for xmas, took it out of the box etc. My 11 year old told me, he said he knew he was getting one anyway but was so upset that my ex had made him take it out of the box when he just wanted to wait till xmas.
That drunken piece of shit ruined xmas altogether that year by getting drunk and violent towards me and really upsetting my kids but that's a different story.
I don't understand what he gained from showing presents that he didn't pay for and didn't work hard to pay for. He found his present aswell, so i gave it to someone else and he went off his face about where was that other gift i got.
Piece of shit.

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1 year ago
Get out of the house and let him mum for the day if you can. I would be furious too 😤

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1 year ago
Sounds good but I’m not mad at the kids lol. He’s just not welcome to come along with us for a few days lol.

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1 year ago
I am going out for an early surf tomorrow though, and maybe the next few days. Let him wake up with the kid a few days. Good advice lol.

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1 year ago
I would buy more but use joint money.

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1 year ago
No iv already told him he’s buying the replacement presents. Lol.
Some of them I can return for something similar but different (LEGO for example)

We don’t have joint money. It’s al coming out of his money lol.

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1 year ago
My kids have busted our stash many times before. I lie and say "these are the toys we send over to your cousins, and aunty has your presents there. That way no cheeky monkeys find their stuff early and ruins the surprise". Then they get excited for their cousins because duh, those gifts are awesome.
And they forget about them.

I will go out and get the top up gifts just before Christmas too. Those ones are the santa ones. In our house santa brings one gift per child.
And I LOVE (and abuse the opportunity) leaving all the kids at home with dad while I shop. I mean, I probably won't find their gifts in a coffee shop, but I do a thorough check every few days in December. Just in case. Same with the nail salon.

Move your presents, tell hubby he's a bastard, and milk this opportunity. You can do it. I believe in you!

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1 year ago
Lol thanks , I really don’t think 2 of my kids will forget, one of them will but my other two are the kind of kids who remeber and connect everything.
Tbh I’m a little surprised each year that comes and my eldest still believes lol.