Answered 16 days ago
My husband and I have been feeling in a real rut with our sex lives... lockdown has only made it worse (homeschooling, working from home, its just been a killer for any spice).
Once lockdown ends, we are keen to try some "soft" swinging but dont really know where to begin. We dont want to do full intercourse, and nor do we think we can pull any friends into it! (Well, not that we know of!!). We also dont want to do stuff online.
I was thinking of maybe having a male stripper come over and giving him a handjob while hubby watches? (He has had a long term fantasy of seeing me get another guy off).
Has anyone else tried dabbling in things like this...? How did it go? How did you start? Do you regret it?
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Red hot pie is how we went about it. I’ve been a unicorn for many couples since becoming single and it’s very common for married parents over 30. Super common. What is also common I’ve observed, is there same issues with my ex husband. The spice can be captured in other ways, it requires a lot of trust and boundaries.
It seems one partner ends up wanting more than the other, and that causes deep rifts for many couples. I no longer am involved in the scene, but it is very common.
How did you organise the same-room stuff? Was it via a website or people you knew?
And online, were you worried about it being recorded or anything?
Did you ever get caught up in the moment when same-rooming and go further or was it easy enough to keep boundaries right?
Thanks - OP!
We did get caught up one time. I was riding my husband while the other husband was kneeling up next to me, f-ing his wife. There was some light touching and intense eye contact between the two of us. That was probably the hottest moment of this whole experience.
Wouldn’t it be great if likeminded people could get in touch on this forum, OP. 😉
I bet it would be hard to hold back at times!