Struggling with my teenage daughter
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I'm finding life with my 13 year old daughter incredibly difficult, she is constantly screaming down the house over the smallest things, she calls me names and threatens me, she recently hit me for asking her to put her device away and have a shower (for the 10th time), which I don't think she will ever do again because I lost my mind and having never seen me so angry, I scared the bejeebers out of her.
This morning because we didn't have any of the cereal she likes left and I forgot to buy it grocery shopping, she called me a bad mother, lazy, told me I have memory problems, she says things like I'll just starve then and when I can't do my work at school I'll tell them it's because you don't buy food.. there are literally dozens of other cereals and breakfast choices. It's just so hard.
I try so hard to defuse her and calm her down but this is day in, day out about anything and everything and I feel like I'm not going to make it through. She was never raised with yelling or violence or anything.. but my other child who is much younger is now mimicking her behaviour, I don't even know what to do any more. Is there anyone out there that has actually gone through this? Is it just a stage? She has always been a good kid, she still is for everyone else... except me. By the time she leaves in the morning I'm ready to jump in front of a bus.
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Forget the cereal issue. It is a non event. Not worth the drama.
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But perhaps the help so she can regulate her emotions is a good idea
I wish you luck ♥ i think it's the age, the boundary pushing and the lack of respect and not getting their own way, combined with hormone changes and friend/peer changes.
It was hard work walking on eggshells all that time, and she was so unpredictable, she also ended up on antidepressants during this time as well, it was just really challenging and i hope you have good support network for yourself to help you get through it
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When she's being an arsehole just stay calm, tell her you haven't got time for this shit, walk away and go about your business. Fuck that man. Don't create yet another brat who thinks their emotions rule the world. Jesus, there are kids who'd just be grateful to have breakfast in the morning before school. I know I'd have loved breakfast before school, but unfortunately i wasn't lucky enough. She should count her blessings to have you.
Just be there for them, he is going through it now and let’s me hug him every now and then. It is a confusing time for them.