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Are younger woman attracted to men in their 40's?

Answered 7 months ago

I am tall and have an athletic slim build and already have plenty of gray, makes me feel old but i prefer the natural look than to dye it. I dont consider myself ugly nor attractive just normal in my opinion. I juat turned 40 so im wondering sometimes i see very pretty woman that look like they are in their early 20's and i stop myself from asking them out as i feel like an old creep. Not looking for anything serious right now just date and enjoy being single after my divorce. My wife cheated on me with a younger man so def left a scar and an insecurity. He wasn't even in good shape just younger, i have a better build at my age than him but i guess youth played a part here, Among other things of course.


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7 months ago
Don't get caught up on age. There's plenty of gorgeous women closer to your age who probably have similar values, are well set up and probably going to be happy to date/ casual date. Rather than a younger woman with whom you have little to nothing in common and probably has some sort of attachment trauma if she's looking at older men. Dating people way younger than yourself seems really shallow to me.

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7 months ago
I'm in my 20's and I think it depends.
What type of car do you have? Also do you have a nice house/apartment? Are you a generous person who likes looking after those close to them?
I don't think looks are really that important. I like a real substantial man.

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7 months ago
From your description of what is important: what car you drive/ how nice is your house etc. it certainly doesn’t sound like you are looking for a man of substance, more likely a wealthy one that you can use and abuse! Comments like these give women a bad name

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10 months ago
Sorry to hear this has happened. Please don’t compare yourself to these other men. You have character and morals unlike them. Cheating is a selfish act and your x wife did it to meet her own needs. These men made her feel good about herself that’s all she needed from them.

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10 months ago
When I was in my 20s I thought guys paying new attention who were that much older were creepy. Probably early 30s was my max limit.

And work on your insecurities first. I'm sure her having an affair was nothing to do with age or build or youth but everything to do with how much more attention he was giving her and her lack of self discipline. So stop thinking about that guy altogether.

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10 months ago
Why wouldn’t you date women the same age as you? I just don’t get it. And no, I wouldn’t date someone that much older, personally.

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1 year ago
Yes, sometimes they can be. Im 26 and I find men in their 60's really attractive

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1 year ago
In answer to your question - I’m 29 and find some men in their 40s attractive. It really depends on how much of a silver fox they are. I would never date anyone in their 40s, it’s personal preference but the age gap is too much. I find men closer to my age are more “house trained” and more likely to enjoy family time than my experience with older men.

With what you have written here though it sounds like you need to take care of yourself and look at ways to heal from what you went through with your wife. It sounds like she has knocked your self esteem by being with a younger man and you are looking at the quick fix of getting a young piece of eye candy to boost it again rather than put in work and get confidence in yourself that will last longer, rather than this short term fix. You might benefit from seeing a counsellor just to get ways to help you with that.

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1 year ago
Definitely - my husband (50s) is having an affair with a much younger woman.

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1 year ago
I wouldn't have been in my 20's, I don't think.
Now I'm in my 30's I find myself very attracted to men in their 40's and 50's.

But, you don't have to go out and find a young woman because your wife found a young man.
Go out there and make a connection with someone, find a person you can love and trust