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Is it fair to say if it's that big of a deal that your kids play sport, you take them?
Answered 3 years ago
I have two young children and due to the cost of child care I work weekends and my husband looks after the kids. Husband has two children to a previous relationship and has them three weekends a month. We only have one car and really can't afford another, but I have to have the car to work as it's a 30 min walk from the bus stop. Step kids have sport and husband tries to get them to sport on the bus they rarely make it on time, and their mum is carrying in about it. I think if it means that much can't she take them? Would you ask?
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5 years ago
Buy a bigger car or a second car, the kids were there first they didn't just magically appear. You are going to want your kids to be playing sport when they are older too and I bet you make it work then. They are his kids and if he has them weekends then it's his job to get them there.
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5 years ago
Once my kids are at school I won't need to work weekends. The point of me working now is to have more money for my step children.
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5 years ago
More money for your step children? What does that mean, and if you don't need to work Saturdays then why bother?
You say you can't afford another vehicle then go on to say that you don't need to work??
Weird
You say you can't afford another vehicle then go on to say that you don't need to work??
Weird
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5 years ago
I meant I would not work weekends
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3 years ago
Yep I would stop working the weekends if you only do it for more money for the step children , stop giving them that extra don’t take it out of your budget else where
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3 years ago
If my partners ex signed their son up for sports on our weekends without checking first and transport was an issue I would let them work it out.
Work comes before kids wants, sport is not essential. Those saying to bite the bullet and buy another car are nuts, that’s a costly choice and I doubt op would work Saturdays if this was affordable
Work comes before kids wants, sport is not essential. Those saying to bite the bullet and buy another car are nuts, that’s a costly choice and I doubt op would work Saturdays if this was affordable
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5 years ago
Kids come first whether they’re yours or his or both. Make some adjustments and buy yourself a little shitbox (car) to get to work if you can’t hitch a lift with someone else and slip them some fuel money.
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5 years ago
Buy a car which I have to register and insure, what happened if it breaks down?
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3 years ago
Are you kidding yourself, op getting to work comes well before kids sports!
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5 years ago
Thanks all. We are saving for a bigger car so it won't be forever. Have decided we will do home games which are not an issue, and mum can do away games or kids will have to miss one a month.
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5 years ago
Again kids are missing out because no body seems to want to compromise where the children are put first. There are so many.options as well that I think you are over looking, yes they may mean a bit more work or a bit more costly but all doable.
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5 years ago
Oh come on. You aren’t in her shoes and you don’t know the full story. I think they have thought this out considering the effort out in and come to a compromise. There is never a perfect compromise but this sounds logical so why start with the harping
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5 years ago
They can get to local games, just not ones on the other side of town. We let mum know if she wants them to play sports it's needs to be local or she has to take them.
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5 years ago
Perfectly resonable to me
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5 years ago
Cant your husband and step kids catch their bus earlier then they usually do so they can make it in time? Its your husbands problem i think.... You are already doing too much, dont listen to all these idiots on here omg you must be dying under the pressure! ❤️
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5 years ago
Agreed. I'd be annoyed by all the drama.
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5 years ago
if they are old enough to get the bus, get the earlier bus. That's what people do / teens do when they need to get to after school jobs etc. on time.
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5 years ago
I think it’s ok to ask the children’s mother for help, however if she is unable to assist you need to find a way to get the kids to sport on your own.
Why are they unable to get there in time using the bus? Could they leave earlier to ensure they get there in time? Otherwise could you use a car sharing service on those Saturdays?
Why are they unable to get there in time using the bus? Could they leave earlier to ensure they get there in time? Otherwise could you use a car sharing service on those Saturdays?
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5 years ago
Your husband can't drop you off at work and pick you up on sport days!?
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5 years ago
We don't all fit in the car.
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5 years ago
Could you ride a bike to the bus stop?
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5 years ago
I would assume that some of the kids are old enough to stay home alone for 30 mins while hubby drops you to work. I think you need to be a little more flexible. Imagine if the shoe was on the other foot and they were "your" kids.
I would also look at trading in your vehicle to get a 7 or 8 seater to eliminate the 5 seat/ 6 people issue. Do you never go anywhere with all of you ?
I would also look at trading in your vehicle to get a 7 or 8 seater to eliminate the 5 seat/ 6 people issue. Do you never go anywhere with all of you ?
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5 years ago
Can you organise friends from the same team to give your step kids a lift?
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5 years ago
Yes he does this when he can.
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5 years ago
I think you need to bite the bullet and buy yourself a second hand cheap run around car, or car pool with a co worker and pay them petrol.
His kids don't deserve to miss out.
His kids don't deserve to miss out.
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5 years ago
I agree with other posters. It’s their commitment and your husbands weekend so yes I think it’s fair he takes them to sport, whether that mean you take the bus or he drop you at work or some other solution. Why should they have to give up sport because they’re at their dads and it’s too hard. Mum shouldn’t have to come to ur house and get them either.
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5 years ago
I disagree. The mum signed up for activities in the dads time. Did he agree? Maybe she can drop them off after sport on Saturdays instead
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5 years ago
I think it is fair for you to ask her. Your situation would make getting them to sport difficult and it is not wrong to ask for help here and there.