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Have you let your husband have anal sex? And was it painful?

Have you let your husband have anal sex and was it painful the first time? Does it ever stop being painful? Or how did it feel?


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I was introduced to anal sex fairly early on in my sex life so letting my husband have me that way really isnt big of a deal.

He had never done it before we met so it was a bit of a novelty to him in the beginning and did it quite often. We might do it 6-8 times a year now.

I enjoy anal sex a lot but have never reached orgasm from it.

I've done it a few times. Every time I was very relaxed so it didn't hurt. A bit like traditional sex, if you are tense it's gonna hurt. But lube. Invest in lotsa KY. That helps. Anal doesn't really do it for me though, so the few times I've tried it was enough for me.

 What happens long term to your muscles?
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It’s awful and super painful. I really don’t understand the obsession with it. Maybe the problem is that I’m not a masochist.

Take a dump backwards. That's what it feels like

 I dont get this
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 It feels like a poo going back up where it came from
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 I totally agree
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I am a Christian woman and I got married at age 22. On my wedding night, my husband asked me to vow to be sexually submissive to him for life. I did so vow and I have been submissive for 9 years. I am 31 now. On my wedding night, in a hotel suite, I let my husband tie my wrists to the headboard of the bed while I lay nude. For the next four hours, I submitted to deep and rough anal sex, during which he ejaculated eight times inside of my rectum. Since then, I have submitted to at least 4 sessions of ansl sex with my husband every single week.

We have a pretty adventurous sex life and are both up for trying new things but have never tried anal. We've raised the idea a few times but neither of us are that keen.
I read an article recently about how more young women these days are being pressured into anal because it's so prevalent in porn that young males often get the impression that it's a very normal/mainstream part of sex, when it isn't really. Sad.

 Yes, very young girls too. Women need to let each other know that its ok to say no to sex acts they dont want to do . Its ok to do them if YOU want to but you shouldnt have to do something painful to please a man.
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 Yes I read this article where Young boys between 12-16 thought the most pleasurable position for a woman is rough anal, because of porn, and obviously they are watching it sneakily so they don't talk to adults about what they're viewing so They don't have anyone to tell them otherwise.
Talk to your children about porn being unrealistic and acted out!!!! Otherwise they'll expect their first time to be like "legal teen loses her virginity to bbc" or something else equally horrifying.

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You definitely need to be very relaxed. Just take it really slow. Make sure you and he are on the same page about taking it slowly and just trying to ease in to it. And lube, lube, lube!
The first time I tried it was with my ex and although I told him to take it slowly he thought it'd be better just to surprise me and get the pain "over and done with quickly" so he just rammed it in all in one go. Fu****g OUCH!!!! We tried a couple more times after that but never lasted more than a couple of minutes as I didn't enjoy it (too nervous and tense he'd do it again).
My husband is a very considerate and protective guy so I trust him completely and it's made all the difference - I actually enjoy it now. We just do it every now and then though to keep things interesting.

I'm a sex worker and i let strangers f**k my arse, take a shit first, use lube and relax.

 Same, but I put a little lidocaine on the outside to take the edge off.
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 Sex is beautiful when it is between husband and wife. It allows for the expression of love, not only mere sexual pleasure.
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Yip we do. Probably about once a month or so. I can orgasm quite strongly through anal (only if I'm on top) and my husband likes this. But the feeling is almost too tight for him he says. So only once and awhile to change it up and be kinky =)

It's a bit hit & miss for me, sometimes it's amazing and other times painful and meh. We don't do it very often at all.

I actually don't mind it. Not all the time, but it is a nice change now and then. I usually have pretty strong orgasms from anal. We use it sometimes to 'finish'.

I didnt like it. I thought it felt wrong. Kind if felt abit gay for my partner, i kept thinking why does he like the butt

We have done it a few times, i find the best position for me is ontop of him. Every other position hurts except that one and i have to be really into it and relaxed. Invest in coconut oil its an awesome lube, expecially if you react to traditional lubes. You only need a small amount and its good for the skin as well. It does get easier and less painfull the more you do it and make sure you go slow to start.

Anal sex is very enjoyable but you really need to use an enema before hand. Doggy style is so satifying while your partner is in your anus he can also play with your boobs amd touch your pussy. And if he comes inside just the pulse is very orgasmic!!

 If your partner tries to go in when hes not very hard it helps loosen the anus too..
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Painful and does absolutely nothing for the woman. Porn is brainwashing society into thinking it’s pleasurable for the woman, when really we are just doing it to please the man !

 Clearly not all wonen think the same. Have you actually read any other responses?
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