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Would you let your husband go to a strip club?

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He doesn't need my permission. He's not a child and I'm not his mother. But if you're asking would I have an issue with it, no I wouldn't.

 You have no self respect
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 Maybe she actually totally trusts her husband, and knows he wouldn't be unfaithful.

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My husband would love to go to a strip club. I told him I don't mind as long as he doesn't mind me going to see male strippers. That changed his mind on it cause he doesn't want me to see male strippers lol. I knew that would be his answer and I'm glad because personally I don't agree with strip clubs when you're in a relationship

I don't get why you think it's OK for your man to lust over another woman? A dumb woman once told me that she doesn't care where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat.
That is just sick. You want to stare at other women's bodies and fantasise about them? You're in your own. Lucky for me my husband is my King andi am his queen so why would he want to stare at another woman

 I feel the same.
I can't stand the saying "doesn't matter where he gets his appetite from as long as he comes home to eat". I've heard it a few times.

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 You ladies really think that our husbands stopped being human when they married you and stopped looking at other women? The way you make it sound is that their eyes never wander which is silly lol!
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 You must feel very insecure to stop a man going to a strip club.
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 Agreed very silly they are only human. I'm sure you've done the same yourself but maybe not subconsciously u c a hot guy at the beach or gym then get horny later when u c hubby?
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 I think there is a bit of a difference between checking out of the opposite sex or fantasy. Obviously we are all human and check out a hot fella/chick passing by, the odd fantasy about the hot tradie or whatever floats your boat....watching some porn together.. LOL but intentionally going to a venue as a voyeur, alone.. to sit there and fantasise and possibly throw away money or be danced on... there is a bit difference and some woman might not like that. While it doesn't bother me so much, I don't think it makes other women 'insecure' if it bothers them. Just difference of opinion/background. I don't think women should be labelled prudes either...I observe that women often sling that comment around to other women to perhaps make them feel a bit inferior. I think it depends on context also. Going there for the odd bucks night? The odd after work boys booze session....Or is it getting a bit excessive/out of hand? Maybe that's when women get concerned/have issues with it.
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No. So he can fantasise about her while sleeping with me?

 Exactly!
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 Agreed I do that all the time! I'm sure he does it too!
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 You can't stop him looking at every woman, so what's stopping fantasising about them in bed?
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 Apparently it's healthy once in a while to fantasize about other people during sex.
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I do have a problem with it. If you wouldn't want your daughter to become a stripper then don't support the exploitation of women for money by going along. I get that a lot of the women 'enjoy' doing it and feel empowered because they earn enough cash to do what they want to do but ultimately they often see the worst side of male behaviour and must lose some faith in men/relationships.

 My thoughts are they same....Before my daughter was here i never really thought or cared but now i believe its just exploiting women.
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 I don't see it as women being exploited, I see it as clever women getting money from stupid men.
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 How are they exploited? They choose to do it. It's not like they are forced onto a stage or a pole. You have to train to pole dance - so I guess they want to be there!
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 I wouldn't gaf if my daughters become strippers if that's what they want.
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 I dont want my daughter to grow up and have sex with boyfriends either but she's gonna grow up and be her own person, I'm certainly not going to abstain in some weird protest!
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My husband has been to one before and all he done when he got home was whinged about how expensive the beer was!! I'm wouldn't be worried about him going again!

I wouldn't want him going in his own for a perv but on a bucks night is ok

 Yup totally depends on the circumstances. Id lose it if he just went alone to perv. Bt if he ended up there coz the people he was out with went then ok watevs.... coz ive done that b4 lol. Cant b a hypocrite....
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 True that would be weird and creepy.
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My fiancé wouldn't because he doesn't want me to go to them... even for his bucks night he doesn't want strippers neither do i.... could have something to do with now he see's it as he wouldn't want some guys acting like that to our daughters when they are older. And his cousin was a stripper which turned him off them

No problem. He comes home to me

 Comes home to you after he's neen all worked up by strippers... No thanks, it's as good as cheating
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 ^^ so is he cheating too, when he's talking a hot chick before he gets home and gets a boner?
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 Haha or when he was out buying milk and bread for the kids and this amazingly hot 25 year old with a gorgeous smile, amazing rack and sweet personality flirts a little at the checkout and he thinks how good she'd look on his d*ck on the car ride back to home. Is that cheating?
Everyone has a naughty thought and a bit of a perve now and then, but it's when you actively go out searching for a f*ck is when there's a problem

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Absolutely!!! If he's got a great body, and he wants to go work in a strip club, that's a great way to earn extra money and he'll be motivated to keep in shape. You should go watch and it'll turn you on seeing other girls cheer him on.

You should never let him go watch girls at a strip club though, that's totally the opposite.

 Oh dear your poor husband. His only choices are to be exploited or not allowed to go as you 'shouldn't let him'.
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Hubby has been a couple of times with mates. He's not that interested. I don't particularly like them - but it's ultimately up to him. I trust him, I just don't get the need to watch women parade around in very little and gyrate on stage for money.

Yes, im going to a male strip club soon for a friends bday and I know I don't have to ask him if it's ok it's a known thing between us

Yes, we have even been together once. It's not really either of our thing but he has been on occasion with some mates.

 Oh and to answer why, because he is an adult who can make his own decisions. It's not up to me to "let" or not "let" him. Granted he's only ever been a few times but I have no problem with it, what is there to have a problem with?
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