Kids come first, I get that. But.....
Answered 2 years ago
My partner and i both have children from previous relationships. We differ slightly in our parenting. Our agreement is that in most things the kids needs come first.
But we're coming unstuck on a couple of things.
1 - his child (6) is in our bed every night that we are all together. Takes over the bed to the point that I have very little room and end up moving to the couch. I've suggested a trundle next to our bed and my partner 'joked' that I could sleep on the trundle. Am I wrong to be annoyed that I'm expected to leave my bed?
2 - I ask my children to look at him if he is talking to them, look up from tablet to answer a question or say hello/goodbye, use manners. My partner doesn't with his children. I'm the one that has to ask them to use basic manners. I'm not harsh, its just a gentle nudge.
He is a good dad and he takes his role as a parent seriously.
I'm beginning to feel very frustrated.
Have an answer?
We have a rule that if a child expects to sleep with the parent that the parent goes and sleeps in the childs bed. I would be firm on the suggestion that you sleep on a trundle!!!
This soon fixed it with my partner as he is 199cm tall, 135kg and his son is 10years old and almost 60kg so they both get pretty squashed. I know 6 years old is alot different to a 10 year old.
If your partner wishes to share a bed with their children they can sacrifice their sleep.
Not possible with all the virus restrictions atm but I would book myself a massage pointing out that you’re sleeping like shit due to being squashed all night.
I disagree with the other suggestion of elbowing the child and pulling their pillow out from under their head, I imagine this will only cause the child to have issues with you!
I feel that he can't bear the thought of his children not liking him if he has some basic rules.