I gave my ex a goodbye kiss after 2 years of him harrassing me. Should i tell my bf? I have no feelings for my ex.
Answered 2 years ago
My bf and i have dated for 2 years. My ex has been harrasing me during this time with private calls and showing up at my house and stalking me. With my bf's permission, i met him after 3 years and talked everything out and told him to stop bothering me and my bf. He felt guilty for cheating on me and i explained that i forgive him and that i want the best for him. To end things on a good note and solidify the fact that i never want to see him again EVER i gave him a goodbye hug and kiss on the lips. It was long hug and kiss because of nostalgia but it made me more convinced than ever that i do not have feelings for my ex. Did i do something wrong? I cant tell my bf because he would misunderstand. I feel guilty because i dont ever keep secrets. I truly do not have feelings for my ex, infact im finally able to enjoy our relationship without my ex harrassing us. Some advice, i want to marry my bf. If im wrong, i would rather live with my guilt than hurt him.
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Okay, wait, I'll explain how it looks to me.
You decide to meet your EX to talk (🔻 red flag)
The ex that was stalking you (🔻 another red flag)
Without your current partner present (🔻)
You talked for a bit to try and settle any issues you have unresolved (fair enough if that's what needs to happen to close the door on the ex completely)
After making it clear that you're finished with him
You kiss the stalker ex (🔻🔻🔻🔻🔻)
And now you want to tell your boyfriend about your bullshit
Girl, tell him so he can end it with your dramatic ass. Kissing a stalker is almost a GUARANTEED way to continue the stalking. The fact you think it wasn't a big deal is disgusting. Your ex is your ex for a reason. Miss me with this "it felt right" shit. It felt like being a tramp.
You want harassment meet my daughters dad who I just got a 5 year no contact DVO on and he still rings me!
Stop beating yourself up and ignore the judgemental and mean remarks. No one is perfect and these commenters haven't lived lives of perfect choices.
If that kiss closed the door on the past them it's a good thing. Leave that door closed and move forward. Only look to your future, don't look back.
Best off luck and be kind to yourself 💙
Are you absolutely sure you don’t have feelings for the ex boyfriend though? Positively?
Why the hell would you do it anyway? You've probably given the ex mixed messages and the harassment will probably start all over again.
I think youve just set yourself up for years more stalking.