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Not liking the person you were in that relationship.

Has anyone experienced dating someone whether it was a boyfriend or ex husband and you just didn’t like the person you were in that relationship?
Just after everything with my partner I just can’t get over things, holding grudges and I’m just constantly pissed off and I just hate it.


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Try to remember who you were before he came into your life. Music helped me remember how carefree & happy I was before a particular relationship. Remember how full of love & laughter you were before they came along. Try to focus on that, do it regularly like every day & before you know it you'll start feeling that way again, i did... Never let anyone make you feel like you need to be less like you to make them happy. It's a journey good luck.

 I totally agree with this comment. Been with hubby 20yrs, have 2 kids and I've finally decided after all this time actually I'm going to be selfish and not come 2nd, 3rd or 4th anymore. I love to sing and dance (no good at it tho haha) and stifled that because noone else likes my music. So the last 2 weeks I've got the Bluetooth speaker going and have been cranking my tunes and have a right old sing and dance while prepping and cooking dinner. Just something so small makes me feel less of just a mum / wife and more of me.
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Yes. With my ex. He always made me doubt my worth in such a way that I didn’t see it until the relationship ended. He was co-dependent, deeply suspicious and jealous of everything. I ended up like you, holding grudges, pissed off over the smallest things with him. I have since realised that the way I was acting was really just a reaction to his behaviour.