8 year old attitude problem with 1 year old brother
Answered 6 days ago
Our 8 year old daughter has been increasingly resentful and angry when asked to help.
I ask her to watch her brother if I need to go to the bathroom or hang washing and she acts like I’ve asked her to feed him or change his nappy.
Her brother had Silent Reflux for a few months so I understand she was very hesitant about being around him bc he just screamed all the time.
I constantly look for ways to include her and tell her brother how clever she is etc so she doesn’t feel it’s all about him.
We have done things with her so she has her own time with us.
I’m tired of reminding her that babies are labor intensive and that we spent the same amount of time care giving when she was a baby (if not more) & that while she doesn’t remember it, neither will he…bc you don’t as a baby.
I don’t know what to do anymore.
I’m trying not to project my experience of being a big sister with a similar age gap but I did A LOT more and showed way more interest, enthusiasm and care for my younger siblings.
Any thoughts on how to resolve this issue for us all would be appreciated ❤️
Have an answer?
Maybe suggest she peg the washing or would she rather read a book to little Tommy instead lol
Lot’s of praise to hubby when you know she’s within ears reach “goodness if it wasn’t for maddie looking after Tommy today and keeping him occupied I wouldn’t have got dinner ready in time”
Good luck, parenting is a hard gig! You’re not alone mama
I agree she’s only 8 k nor should she have to or want to do more.
I’m basically looking for suggestions on how to strengthen their bond. I guess I didn’t word my question/concerns correctly.
I definitely don’t expect her to change nappies etc
My husband & I are just sad that she shows limited interest despite our efforts & one on one time with her without her brother e.g. we praise her to her baby brother etc
Thank you for taking the time to respond ❤️