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Answered 8 months ago

We are expecting our first child after years of having issues conceiving, In that time I have worked out there are things I like and don’t like.

- I don’t like Onsie and Jump Suits cause to me they just look like pyjamas/Singlet suits and I don’t want my child wearing them during the day. What do you dress your baby in during the day that arnt those things

- Do you have to buy singlets or singlet suits

- Is it true that you generally dress the baby in 1 more layer then you wear

- Is it ok to use sheets and blanket securely tucked in with baby at bottom of cot instead of these fancy sleep sacks. I prefer not to use them

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8 months ago
Singlet suits, onesies, and i use a swaddle at night, no sheets blankets etc because it's not sids friendly.
Onesies are quite practical for floppy newborns. They're warm, they're easy to get on and off. They have the rest of their lives for fancy clothes.

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8 months ago
A baby is only a baby for such a short amount of time, allow your baby to be a baby, there will be plenty of time for ‘outfits’, although the child should drive the desire for dress ups, not the parent.

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8 months ago
Welcome to your baptism of fire.
Everyone is right.

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8 months ago
My kids all wore onesies to keep them warm, the 1 layer thing worked for us, and I suggest you look up sids and kids for the blanket info. Its fine if you follow the guidelines properly

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9 months ago
The reason babies wear onesies is because they are comfortable, You don’t need to find co-ordinating items, or worry about them pulling socks off (with my first, I must have bought 100 pairs of socks!) You can get so many really cute ones too! Think about having to lay on your back or tummy with an awful waistband digging into your sensitive little tummy, or uncomfortable textures, or things that ride up. My poor first bub was dressed to the 9’s for the first couple of weeks (I thought “eew, onesies are for pyjamas”) until I ended up realising she was happier and cosier in her onesies! I was given so many dresses for my daughter and she didn’t get to wear any of them because first it was too cold, then she couldn’t crawl in them (they made her fall over 😬).Save the outfits for special occasions and photos lol. Singlet suits stop them from riding up and becoming uncomfortable- BUT they are a pain to have to do up over and over and can contribute to side leakage (especially if you use modern cloth nappies).

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9 months ago
Also recommend zips over buttons any day! Those snap buttons are terrible to work out when you are sleep deprived and hanging on by a thread lol

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9 months ago
Agree, buttons are annoying to get a nappy on and off, especially during the night. I liked the zips that went down to the feet as it made it easier to change each nappy faster.

My kids loved the sleeping sacks, they slept better in them. I got so much more sleep from using them.

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9 months ago
For newborns onesies are great. Separate top and bottom, I find the tops ride up and bunch and baby must get uncomfortable. Having said that stretchy baby leggings with a T-shirt (long or short sleeve) is a good alternative. Put a onesie singlet underneath so baby stays warm around their middle.
Stylish baby clothes often aren’t very practical to get in and off so just be mindful of that when shopping. And basically avoid anything with zips and buckles that could potentially dig in and cause pressure areas on bubs delicate skin.
I swaddled with muslin wraps when my babies were little, but found sleeping bags safer and more practical once Bub starts to roll and move around from about 3-4 months old. Mine used to kick and wriggle out of the swaddle by that age and then pull it up over their faces which is not safe, so that’s when I switched to sleeping bags. In winter I still tuck a blanket over them for extra warmth, which is fine as long as you follow sids guidelines and it’s tucked in tight.
Yes, generally speaking, it’s one more layer for Bub than what you are wearing. Young babies have immature circulatory systems so their hands and feet will always feel cold. Check Bub is warm enough by putting your hand down the back of their neck to feel their back or chest.
All 3 of my babies were different, one liked to be tucked up a lot warmer than the other 2 and still does at 3yrs old. You’ll soon get to know your baby and what they like and are comfortable in.

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9 months ago
Congrats on having your baby! You will learn along the way because how you think things will be is not how they turn out . You need clothes that make it easy to change nappies, that make the baby comfortable and keep them either warm or cool . Onesies are great I like the zip ones They don’t ride up keeping the baby’s back warm and feet some you can even turn the sleeves over to keep the hands warm or stop them scratching their face .

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9 months ago
There are cute onesies out there. Check out brands like seed. They don’t all look like pjs. They are easier to get on and off Bub (safer when they wiggle around. Definitely recommend a onesie atleast as a bottom layer.
Brands like seed also have comfortable ‘outfits’ look for things with buttons where shoulder pads go as they are more practical to put in and off.
Singlets with buttons important to make sure no elements get to Bub, no matter the weather they need to be covered.

You can put a Bub in a sheet any way you like and any movement will cause twisting and what not. I definitely suggest a gro bag, plenty of spares, they come in different togs (thicknesses) and also come with a room thermometer to suggest layers of clothing. Plain bonds onesies with and without sleeves and singlets that clip up at the bottom keeps in poo explosions.
Swaddling with a sheet firm the first few weeks while Bub is not moving followed by sleeping bags.

I worked as a maternity nurse for many years, often booked by exhausted parents. I have had loads of experience in this department.

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9 months ago
Also some of my clients were celebrities, they always focused on cute blankets for the bugaboo or any designer pram. Beautiful throws for the floor for them to play on.
One in particular had an entire tall boy full of crispy white onesies. Full onesies, half sleeve, full sleeve , singlet. new bubs sleep so often when they are out and about which is better than them being out in the elements anyway. The nappy bag had zip up pouches full of one of each for changes of cloths. Anything pooped on got binned!!!

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9 months ago
Yes one layer than you especially in winter. In summer a light weight cardigan is fine. Onsies are for babies. I found qhen i had pumpkin patch on my child little jeans etc people gave horrible comments. So i swapped to onsies. If you can handle criticism do what you want.

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9 months ago
Can I ask why did you fine people gave you dirty looks just cause you chose to dress your baby a certain way

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9 months ago
I guess people expect to see a baby in onsies and 99% of the time mine was but those few occassions I was told " its not a doll, stop teying to dress it as a toddler" random strangers when he wore jeans and a cute bear jumper for the first time. Its hard enough being a firat time young mum with no supports but then to have random comments it put me off.

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9 months ago
I guess society has expectations. Babies in onsies or jumpsuits. If you branch aqay from the norm you are a "bad mum". My point is do what is beat for you and your baby and ignore the rest. Plenty of babies have little normal outfits these days. 12 years ago not so much. A baby can be comfy either way. There is no right or wrong.

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9 months ago
Btw I know bonds have lovely two pieces now along with onsies which are not just plain white blue yellow or green now. You have lots of choices now I am sure you will be fine.

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9 months ago
I love the stuff at best and less. So cute

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9 months ago
If you don't want to use onsies that's up to you. But I'd only be putting bub in outfits that are made of the same/similar type of fabric- nice and soft. No stiff denim jeans etc. Also babies sleep a lot, so it makes sense for them to be in pyjamas (onsies) all day. You may also find your bub doesn't like getting clothes pulled over their head, which is another reason onsies are handy. When wearing outfits, I would use a singlet suit underneath so if the top rides up their skin isn't exposed (in colder weather).

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9 months ago
You are focussing on the wrong things. Think about what your baby wants, what is comfortable and safe, not what you want.

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9 months ago
100% 👏👏

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9 months ago
Sorry but I am the baby’s parent I am asking a question I don’t see the issue but what do you think I should be focussing on

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9 months ago
Nothing worse than seeing a newborn in fucking skinny jeans, They look so uncomfortable!!! Onesies are great for comfort.

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9 months ago
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Love it

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9 months ago
Typically you can expect to need to change the baby’s clothes about 3-6 (maybe more) times a day, consider this and what others have said.

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9 months ago
Sorry why do you deem they need to be changed so much

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9 months ago
My two kids hardly ever had to get changed, so that seems excessive to me. But every baby is different. I wouldn't buy heaps of clothes until you've worked out if your bub is a messy one. Poo and spew are the reasons babies need changing. Look up poonami so it's not a shock if it happens 😉

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9 months ago
Depending on the baby you have, they might vomit just enough after each feed to need changing, not to mention poos that leak through nappies, up their back etc. once the start on solids, you pretty much have to strip them for every meal or dress them in a paint shirt if you want to avoid changing clothes lol

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9 months ago
Boy are you in for a rude shock

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9 months ago
Of course you don’t need to put your bub in onesies. Completely your choice. There are a lot of options. Go to a baby store or baby section of a department store and have a look.

Just a word on the sleeping sacks, both of mine slept better in them. So don’t discount them simply because you don’t like the look of them.

Everyone has their preferences and we all do things Differently. And that’s perfectly fine . Our babies are also very different. So keep an open mind and don’t dismiss anything unless you have tried it because nothing about parenting is predictable.

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9 months ago
Congratulations to you firstly.

You'll find in the early days when they just eat sleep & poop, the onesies are a saviour. Particularly the double zipped ones. But if you really don't want them - there are wide varieties of cute tights & tops you can get. Look for comfort rather than rigid materials.

Singlets / singlet suits are good in winter under clothes & when its really hot just a singlet with the nappy is all bub needs.

My daughter was swaddled, with a sheet/blanket over the top tucked in. My son is a wriggler so I had to buy sleeping bags. They are not mandatory but will really depend on the baby.

Good luck!

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9 months ago
Thanks for the advice I just intended on swaddling so just wasn’t sure the point of the sleep sacks

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9 months ago
Swaddling in the fist 3 months (about) then sleeping bags.

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9 months ago
I would get a few different things, as once you have the baby you might feel differently. The onsies are good because the baby stays warm and their top won't ride up. Pants and tops are fine too. The sip up swaddle sleep bags are amazing because babies tend to get their arms out of wraps and then wake themselves up.

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9 months ago
If you don't like them, don't let baby wear them your the parent. Why are you wanting people to justify otherwise?

There were things I said I wanted to do and didn't want. Some I have done against my word. But meh it happens. Dont go insulting others that may like it - each to their own.

Enjoy time with bub and enjoy motherhood for all it is.

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9 months ago
Sorry... you're not your

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9 months ago
I never once insulted I was asking a genuine question on if those things were necessary, I really don’t want to use them. I wasn’t mum shaming anyone who does I was merely saying I don’t want to use them and asked for suggestions on what to use as a alternative

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9 months ago
Hey, that's cool. Sorry I thought you were insulting.

Please don't worry so much. Just enjoy it. We will continue to make mistakes all the way until they are 18 lol.

I like the advice of the others - talk to the midwife about what's safe and not and there's heaps of things on SIDS website. Aside from that, comfort is best for bub and please enjoy!

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9 months ago
There are no have-tos, and don't worry too much. We all worry too much with first babies!

You'll find your own way of doing things, ignore the constant 'advice' and ask a midwife about safe ways of doing things. You'll be just fine. I was & knew less than nothing about babies.