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I never thought closure was such a big deal.

Answered 4 years ago

Many years ago before my hubby I was seeing someone else. We had great chemistry. We got along so well, we had alot of sexual chemistry but never slept together (we did everything else but). And it just ended one day. Never spoke again. Well now he is back (so to speak), he and my hubby work together. And I can't stop myself from thinking about him, not necessarily in a sexual manner but just in general. There was never an ending. I don't know how to move past it? We've spoken, not about the past. I'm happily married. He is happily married but I don't know why I feel so weird?? I'm sure I'll cop a world of abuse on this post but I'm actually curious. Why is this playing on my mind- 12 years later.


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4 years ago
As humans we need closure you obviously never got it so are now processing this.

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4 years ago
It could be because its brought back memories and feelings of a time in your life that was obviously enjoyable. It's absolutely natural and completely understandable. Just let your mind run things through as many times as you need until it moves to the back of your mind. And remember its natural. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just makes you human. Its a great thing you are both happily married, you don't need to open any cans of worms in your life 😊

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4 years ago
Thankyou so much! Absolutely would never cross a line. I've just been so confused as to why I'm thinking about him again. We did have alot of fun. Very carefree. Thanks so much you've made me feel alot better :)

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4 years ago
I'm glad 😊

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4 years ago
This actually sounds like a mild form of torture. I think you are completely normal!

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4 years ago
Hahaha thankyou!

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4 years ago
Completely normal reaction to a weird situation. Sometimes parts of our lives stay strong in our minds because they meant alot or it was an intense time. Doesn't mean anything beyond that....not if you don't want it to. Not getting a definite answer or reason as to why a relationship ends can be make it difficult to close that chapter of your life though. I've had the same thing. Him coming back has you wondering again & ruminating. Do you want that answer or do you pretend it didn't happen? That is entirely you to you. Good luck.

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4 years ago
I don't actually know?? I'm not too fussed it wouldn't change anything obviously but maybe I'm more affected by it than first thought because now it's playing in my mind. I just don't want to make it weird for him and hubby at work.