My son from a previous relationship has Fragile X syndrome and will be in care for the rest of his life. He will never b
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My son from a previous relationship has Fragile X syndrome and will be in care for the rest of his life. He will never be able to live independently. I had decided after his diagnosis I would not have more children.
Last week I found out I am pregnant and now approximately 8 weeks along. My husband wants to terminate regardless but I'm curious to find out for sure via CVS and then make a decision. If the baby is a girl and doesn't have Fragile X I would seriously consider keeping her even if it completely disrupts our lives.
I have so many questions running through my mind. What if there is a reason this is happening? What if I get to be a mum again? How could I even make it work? How we will pay our bills? Will my husband resent me for trying to pursue this?
I'm really just putting this out there because I feel too ashamed to talk to anyone without fear of judgement later on.
I'm married. My husband and I both have a child each from previous relationships.
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You agreed before the pregnancy no more children, how would you feel if your husband wanted to keep it and you didn’t? ( you would probably sneak off and have a termination)
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So there is a exact timeline for when the test can be done.
Just do it.
I have had 3 pregnacys, 2 kids, and have had 3 CVS tests.
It does not hurt, it takes about 1 1/2 - 2 hours. 99.9% accurate, so there is no way it is wrong.
Then decide after you have the resullts.
Just you 2 decide, no one else, no family talk, what to do.
Its just about you and your DH.
There should be no fear or judgement at all, noone elses business.
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Like I said, I really hope this turns out for the best and OP and her husband have a beautiful healthy baby. But he sounds pretty deadset and perhaps they need to get some counselling together and come up with an agreement.