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Partner watching porn
Answered 4 years ago
My partner works away for 2-3 weeks at a time. He knows I hate him watching porn but I found out he has been anyway while he is away. I have sent him videos of me to watch which clearly are too boring if he feels like he still needs to watch porn. I can't help but feel angry with him. Do I just deal with it as I can't exactly stop him and he will most likely just lie about it and keep doing it?
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4 years ago
I just want you to know your not the only one going through this. My husbands porn addiction has led to my affair (which I have no regrets about). In a way I wish I had of sought counseling but I would never have met my affair partner. I think for you as long as he is giving you the attention you deserve when his home you should be happy but if your not do everything you can before fate makes that choice.
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4 years ago
My partner used to be the same and I had issues with it. Took awhile but he doesn't do it much anymore very rarely. I guess when away they're bored and it's kinda an addicition so not something they can just stop instantly. In the end I figured if he came home to me then I could be ok with it. Would watch it with him at times and didn't mind it myself. Find a happy balance. Good luck x
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4 years ago
Thank you. Last time he came home he didn't seem as interested in me which made it worse and hurt more. Now it's on my mind everyday. It sucks but I guess I just have to find a way to deal with it without being angry.
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4 years ago
If he's not interested in you maybe he's sick of the nagging or you going on about it? (Obvisiouly I don't know this it's just what I used to do) It takes time to change things around but you can if that's what you want. I started 'dressing up' and role playing abit and had some fun with it. Awkward at first lol but then I came to love it after a few weeks. If he ignores that then I'm sorry maybe something else going on.
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4 years ago
I didn't go on about it to him until after the weekend when he wasn't as interested in me as usual, that is more what got to me I guess. Made me feel like he's watched so much porn during the week that I'm boring but he could have just been tired from doing a long drive. I do need to buy some dress ups or more sexy lingerie. I would feel awkward at first too as I'm quite a shy person.
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4 years ago
Do it!! It'll spice things up in no time and bring out the animal in you that you never knew was there! good luck. Please do remember though it is a habit and habits are hard to break no matter how much he loves you. X
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4 years ago
It sucks but cold hard reality is he won’t stop. Especially since he’s away all the time for long periods of time.
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4 years ago
Yes thankfully it will only be for 3 more months and then he will be home again. He tells me he would much rather have me over porn but uses it because I'm not there. I guess that should make me feel slightly better about it
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4 years ago
It's not illegal. I guess at least he isn't having sex with other woman. I trust him 100% not to cheat on me, I guess I just hate the fact he is watching other women in a sexual way.
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4 years ago
Unless it’s an illegal kind of porn, you really have no right to tell him not to watch it. Sure you don’t have to like it but if he’s not doing it in front of you, and he isn’t watching it instead of putting his attention on you while he’s home the. I don’t understand the problem. And yes, he will probably keep on doing it if you tell him to stop, so you should really just accept it.