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Problems with 7 year old

My 7 yo daughter has changed so much lately.
She has these anger outbursts, she’s started getting physical with her younger sibling (about 3 times now)
At school she’s been involved last week in an altercation which apparently the older girl started (year 3) but my daughter was nasty back. Name calling and then my daughter shoved her.

She’s NEVER been physical with kids or her siblings ever. Only very recently.
She doesn’t tell me things anymore and she has such an attitude.
What am I doing wrong?


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Have some time out with just her and find out what’s going on. It sounds to me like she could be having a hard time at school with other kids or even being bullied. Children don’t express themselves like adults, they often act out when something is wrong. You aren’t doing anything wrong and you don’t need to beat yourself up over this.

Can you take her to a park just the 2 of you and talk to her. Tell het you see that she has changed and you love her and want her to be happy. Maybe she feels a bit left out and needs a bit of one on one time with you?

Good luck

I can't offer any useful advice as my kids are older and the 'attitude never came up. What I would like to say however that it is not you, it's nothing you're doing wrong and its not your fault. Please please please don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I'm guessing you have 3 or more kids which makes you one fierce mumma. You'll get through this and so will your little.........angel? ❤😘

OP Thankyou 💕
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She could be going through some major hormones too, don't rule it out. I agree, spend some time together, preferably take the day off school so she feels extra special and spoil her...then try get the goss

Is there any chance she is being sexually abused by someone?

 Horrible but this was my first thought too. Or perhaps bullied. I hope not of course but it sounds like she has a lot of anger all of a sudden?
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Kids go through phases all the time. When they do this I try to spend more time with them. I think it’s a subconscious form of attention seeking.

I would have a chat with her privately. Maybe take her out for dinner just you 2 and find out what is causing this. Even a a psychologist can help alot, you can see one for free on a mental health care plan. Good luck mum and don't beat yourself up ♥️♥️