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Is he cheating?

Today I was on the computer (which is rare, I usually use my tablet for all things online) and was looking for a quick link in the history to something I was doing on the computer last week and came across a fuck buddy dating website. I'm not sure what to think. My husband has never given me any reason to think he might cheat on me. Our sex life hasn't been what it used to be since kids came along, and it's been maybe 6 weeks since we last did it, and that is all on me. Husband never asks for sex, never hassles me for sex, and seems understanding when I say I'm too tired/feeling unsexy/etc. I love my husband very much, and we have been happily married for 10 years.


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If he watches pornit could just have been a pop up.
Talk to him...

 Agreed. I remember Ashley Maddison popping up on my hubby's phone. I had no idea what that site was about and assumed the worst.
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It's most likely a pop up from a porn site. If I look through my history on my iPad it comes up with f**k buddy sites too from pop ups from porn sites.

Definitely sounds like a pop up love, if there was more than one link or it expanded as if he was browsing then I'd be more worried x

 Yes but he can go incognito, or just delete.
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No one knows knows the answer, you would have to check his phone and other devises if you aren't going to ask and see if he is contacting people.. I know a person who used a similar site and they'd hooked up for years-and they weren't who you'd imagine! Hooking up at lunch breaks and afternoon work it was sick.

You should ask him. Even if you are afraid, hopefully he'd be putting your mind to rest

I think most likely it is a case of him getting curious and clicking on a link without any intentions of following through.
If there aren't any other red flags and you didn't automatically think he was cheating, he probably isn't.
Go with your gut and just ask him about it.
Good luck!

I don't think u have anything to worry about. Stupid pop up ads for dating and random stuff pop up on my phone just looking at this forum.

Can you click on the porn links and see what pop ups are linked to it?

I think pop up Hun, yes certain ones do come up in thenhostory

(Cont'd cos apparently my post was too long)

I know he looks at porn sometimes. I have no issue with that, and he knows I have no issue with it whatsoever but he is still discreet about it and never looks at it in front of me. I don't know if this is just a site he stumbled across (it's only in the history once, but that doesn't mean he hasn't deleted all the other links in the history, I'm aware of that). And there is a couple of links to Redtube which is the only other sex related link in the history. I know I'm going to need to talk to him about this, but I'm afraid of what I might hear.