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Did anyone get married and not tell anyone afterwards
Answered 4 years ago
We are thinking of eloping but even after we get married, i don't want to tell anyone especially on his side of the family. I don't know why? I just feel like its no ones business!
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4 years ago
That’s weird. Why don’t you want to tell anyone? It’s no ones business who you marry and how , but unless you’re estranged from family why would you keep such a huge life event from them? If you want to ruin your relationship with your family, then this would be a good start.
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4 years ago
Different responder- but it may not be such a big event for some. I don’t mean to cause offence, for me it honestly was not a big event and nor was it even an important one. We wake up exactly the same the next day and had been together for a long time.. perhaps this has something to do with it.
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4 years ago
^ for most people it is one of the biggest events of their lives, even if your wedding it was completely unimportant to you. Honestly, if that is your opinion on marriage, why bother with it in the first place?
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4 years ago
Perfect. When someone is so invested in it, they are very attached to it and get very defensive about it. For most people I think it is a societal pressure, especially men. But .. if you don’t agree with me, honestly why even get upset? There are many reasons to get married, and it’s not to do with it being the biggest event in your life. It’s a commitment at it’s purest form, I find your view very black and white
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4 years ago
I’m not upset, how did you get that idea? Why do people think disagreeing is the same as being upset? But anyway.... It just odd seems strange to do something that is apparently so meaningless to you. Just trying to understand it.
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4 years ago
You are talking about a wedding being the biggest day of your life, not a marriage! They are very different things. I want to be married to my partner, but we don't want a wedding, and we don't need interfering, self entitled family members commenting on how they think our lives should/shouldn't be lived!
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4 years ago
^ I’m not. I’m talking about not telling family you’re married, and marriage is pretty major, no? I understand why people elope. I floated the idea to my husband when we were planning our own wedding. But from what I understand, OP means not telling people she is married.
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4 years ago
Yes for two years only my husband, me and my parents knew.
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4 years ago
Can I ask why?
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4 years ago
I would love nothing more than this but partner is insistent on a big wedding "because that's what his mum wants" didn't like it when I told him to go marry his mum then. Been 3 years since he asked and I still refuse to make wedding plans
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4 years ago
I kinda get how you feel. If people know stuff they tend to interfere and give unwanted advice. I like to keep to myself too.
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4 years ago
^This! I just cant be bothered with people's passive aggressive statements on how we should be living either
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4 years ago
We did it, and didn’t tell people for over 10years. I felt the same as you, I’m not a marriage person and I actually only married as we moved to Europe. We don’t wear rings(we are back now).
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4 years ago
If it's no-ones business then what does it matter whether you're married or not? Having said that, I would still respect your decision:)