Sending you love during this difficult time. It’s okay to not love the newborn stage. You are still a wonderful Mumma. Look after you. Fill your cup. Give yourself time. You are a Mumma of three. It’s okay to feel this way- you are not alone ❤️ Accept any help that is offered. Reach out to close family and friends xxx

There is nothing wrong with hating a situation and lack of sleep, being a parent isnt always easy.
I have twin boys (4months) who were both in nicu for a week, i wasnt able to hold them for 3 days due to complications in the birth, i was still able to build a strong bond with both bubs, both are now thriving, happy and growing, they didn't start sleeping through the night until 3 months..
Not trying to come across rude at all but it is about mindset, negative misndset = negative outlook, find ways to bond with your baby, set realistic goals with bub (3 weeks he wont sleep through the night, frustrating yes, but its still something that needs to tendered to until he can) set realistic goals for yourself (make a healthy breakfast and beautiful coffee to start the day) youll be amazed at how much little things can change your outlook, if you nurse him to sleep, take a deep look at all those cute features, the wind smiles, im hpping you have a good support system around you, 2 kids and a newborn is tricky, but at the end of the day they need a healthy happy mumma too.

Have you considered co-sleeping? I didn't plan to but ended up doing it and loved it. Everyone in the house got a full nights sleep which kept us all much happier. If you are going to do it, be sure to look up how to do it safely.

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You don’t hate him. You hate the situation. And he’s the reason for the situation.
I hate to say this here cos I n in is it might be poorly received as it’s not everyone’s cupppa tea...



This too shall pass.



Soon he’ll start to show his little personality and bit by bit you’ll fall in love. People might ask you in 6 years, hows it like having three kids? And you’ll probably feel like if you can have your son but only have two kids you’d take it, but to not have him, you never would.
He will grown. He WILL sleep.
In all the situations iv seen with friends in your shoes... their third becomes the golden child. The one that softens them. That teaches them a new level of love. A love that’s beyond any sacrifice you ever made for the other two.


This too shalll pass mama.
You will fall in love with him one day. And he will probably become the family jewel.

I cried for 11 months when I found out I was pregnant with our 4th. She is the light of our family. I can’t even remeber how I felt , though I remeber resenting the situation I was in.

But I can tell you... I remeber when she was 3 months and 2 days. I had been trying to settle her for hours getting so mad. Then I sat with her. And I fell in love with her that night. 7 years on I’m closer to her than all my kids. EVERYONE in our family is closer to her than anyone.
She’s such a special, unique human. And someone I had no idea our family desperately needed.

I promise, you will fall in love with him eventually. Be kind to yourself. He is here for a reason. And he is a gift.
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There is a website, i think it's called PANDA with some information about how you're feeling after having a baby.
It's good to reach out to people (sometimes close family, hubby don't understand) but your child health nurse and gp will.
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You need a good sleep, a good meal and a rest! Is it possible your partner etc could do this for you? I’ve been here when my 2nd was born so i understand you feeling this way. I hope you can get the rest you need, be kind to yourself. Good luck x

I hope you get through this and you and your baby are ok.

Good on you for being honest. That's half the battle. Sending you love and hugs.

Hate is a very strong word. Speak to your Maternal Child Health Nurse TOMORROW.

Defo get to a doctor/child health nurse, and seriously consider co sleeping. I did with my third - it was the only way to survive. Good luck, life is totally shit sometimes, just keep going, one hour at a time ❤️

Do some skin to skin with baby- probably not what you feel like doing right now, but it will help generate oxytocin for you and him and help you bond. Take some big sniffs of his head. Pop him under your shirt and sit in a recliner or somewhere else comfy with him and try to relax. Call your midwife or family health nurse and let them know how you are feeling. Let 9 and 4 year old watch tv, play video games etc. - it will be easy to get back into routine once you’ve healed a bit more and can be up and about, but for now, do whatever is easiest and gives you the most peace. Pay or bribe the 9 year old to help with the four year old (help get him drinks, snacks, put movies on for him etc). Let them know you’re having a hard time right now and you’d really appreciate their help. This is not forever, before you know it you’ll be able to put Bub in a pram and get the big boys in their scooters and go for a nice long walk. For now, get the big kids to fend for themselves, you relax on couch, hold bub , sniff that baby hair and watch a show you like for distraction. Good luck and remember to reach out to midwife, nurse or gp for help xoxo

I had the same problem with my first one 40 years ago now. He was a C section and then complications breastfeeding, I was in hospital for 2 weeks and when I got home, nothing seemed to go right. Friends all came round and said how lucky I was but I wasn't feeling it, I felt ashamed because of these horrible feelings I had about him, whenever people asked what his name was, I couldn't remember. It took 3 months before I came right. 20 years on I happened to hear the symptoms of PND and it was like a light bulb came on , that's what I had and back then I'd never heard of it so I just kept my shame to myself and my mouth shut and soldiered on.
All I can say is talk to a health professional you trust and good luck.

Sending you love and hugs

Get off this site and call your gp

You don't hate your newborn. You hate the situation you find yourself in. You cant excercise now but you will be able to soon so instead of dwelling maybe go for light walks. It will help with endorphins which make us happy. ,speak with your mch and gp and partner as well. Dont look at your child as a problem. He is a blessing many others would love but cant have of their own. You feel low its normal but hating ur baby isnt so please tell your partner and gp

Hire a babysitter or get your partner to watch the kids and have a really good sleep. Use noise cancelling headphones to sleep if your spouse/sitter watches them at home due to restrictions.

Being overtired may be playing a huge part. No one is at their best exhausted, be kind to yourself.

If the feeling continues when you are caught up on sleep than see your doctor. Get your doctor to also check your iron levels as it may make you feel extra tired.

Book an appointment with your doctor as soon as you can. Tell them what’s wrong. Call PANDA 1300 726 306 between 9am-7:30pm AEST in between waiting for your doctor. You deserve to feel happy. Your children deserve to have a happy mum. Your baby deserves to create a bond with you. You deserve to create a bond with your baby. Right now you need to get on the phone and call friends or family, if you have a partner get him/her to get off their arse and help out. Call in reinforcements. If you have no one and you’re in Brisbane I will come give you a break so you can get some time to sleep or shower and cook you a few meals.

You really need to talk to someone. You sound like you might have some post natal depression. Please, make an appointment to see your GP Or your post natal health professional and do so immediately.

Also, ignore any nasty trolls who will no doubt comment. They. Aren’t worth your time. You haven’t done anything wrong. You can’t control how you feel. But you can control what you do about it so take action right now.