Do you think it is normal nowadays for people to just not answer text messages or messenger messages etc?
Answered 4 years ago
My brother and sister both do it to me and one friend in particular does it too... I don’t bother people all the time, but I seem to just get ignored. I really feel hurt. Am I being sensitive or is this just normal now? One example would be a friend saying they want to FaceTime some time this weekend, I’ll text them on Sunday to see if they’d still like to catch up and get no response at all. They were the one to initiate the idea! I know everyone is busy with kids etc, but it takes a minute to just text that! With family, I’ll invite my parents, brother, sister, their kids and partners to a bbq, giving plenty of notice and get no reply, (Except from Mum) then send a follow up message closer to the date politely asking if they could let me know, then don’t get an answer and then they might show up or not. It makes me feel like shit. Does everyone experience this? It makes me feel like no one likes me, or I’m awful to talk to 🙁
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Some days I'm actually so busy i genuinely don't get time to answer till later and then i forget. But i have two group chats with different family that i pretty much always answer no matter what
Grrr
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People are just generally forgetful. .
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I'd be following up with a message reminder saying if they don't respond by X time you'll assume they're not coming/calling/able to meet & will make other plans. I guarantee it'll happen once where they'll show up & no bbq is waiting or they face time & realise you've got a life. Be nice, say 'sorry, I did text saying no response meant you weren't able to make it, so I made other plans.' Put the ball in their court!