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Should I cook my hubby meat?

Answered 7 months ago

Hey I've recently decided to become a veggie, mainly for enviromental reasons. My hubby isn't really a fan of this and he wants me to still cook him meat. I am a SAHM to our 18 month daughter and he works so I do all the cooking. He says even if I don't eat meat I should still add meat to the food after but this is a lot of extra work and also I don't want to be using it as it defeats the purpose of me not eating it. I've said he can cook his own meat if he wants it but he doesn't like veggie food and he gets home late every night. He says I am being hypocritical as I have eaten it most of my life and also I do feel bad about this a bit as I am kinda forcing a major lifestyle change on him. He also says since I am staying at home and agreed to cook I should cook what he wants. Am I being unreasonable? Should I just cook him meat


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7 months ago
Yes i think you are a bit
I became vego 5 years ago
Vegan 4 years
I always added hubbies meat he ate veto once or twice a week (with Dahl or curries)
He said he would never be vego
A year ago he went completely vegan in a week.
Now he eats fish once a week or fortnight but that’s all.
No dairy no meat. Just fish his friend catches.

You’ve been a meat eater. You shouldn’t expect to impose it on him.
He’s your hubby , compromise.
I know a fair few vegans married to meat eaters and they all compromise in the own way.
One of them won’t cook hubbies meat at all but totally respect his choices.
The ones who weren’t respectful ended up the worst off.

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7 months ago
Thanks I shall try and find a compromise

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7 months ago
Make a base vegetarian meal and add meat that is as sustainably grown and local as you can for the other family members most nights. Use smaller quantities where appropriate.
You married a meat eater and trying to force change is not going to work. Over time he might see your delicious vegetarian meals and change his mind :)

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7 months ago
Yes I shall compromise try and find a balance! And everytime I cook him veggie I shall put loads of extra effort in to make him want it more!

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7 months ago
My vegan mum married a butcher. She cooks him meat all the time. She will make veggies they can both eat and bake herself a protein and fry him up his steak. She makes veggie curries and fries up some diced chicken for him on the side to add to his curry. Some nights they have entirely different meals, in that case he cooks for himself. Maybe one or 2 nights a week he eats vegetarian with her! Try and find foods that can be easily adjusted so you don't have to cook an entire different meal for your hubbs. Frying up a steak or some diced chicken, in addition to what you've already made for yourself is just that little extra effort we make for someone we love. Some nights she will make him a meal just for him such as bolognese, while she just sticks with pasta and red pasta sauce, but not every night. I think if he expected an entire different meat filled meal each night to what you're eating then that's unreasonable. You both need to meet in the middle here. Neither of you are right, but neither of you are wrong. He prob just loves your cooking and dreads not getting it anymore. Agree to one meal a week of his choosing and he can agree to one vegetarian meal with you... The rest can be made to work. It won't hurt him to make a meal or 2 for himself (and for you!) But since you don't have an aversion to meat for ethical reasons, only environmental, you can't force him to change just because you decided to and to just stop doing something you guys obviously routinely did- him work, you make meals... It's kinda harsh...

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7 months ago
Thanks! I think this is the right balance we need to find a compromise

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7 months ago
Yes. Vegetarianism is your choice, not his so grow up

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7 months ago
But he can cook his own meat?

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7 months ago
But she is not forcing him to become a veggie he can cook for himself. If he said one night I want you to cook me a steak when she had already cooked chicken this would clearly be unreasonable! He shouldn't dictate what she cooks.

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7 months ago
He is a grown man! He should be happy you're cooking for him at all! If he wants meat he can cook it himself so you're not forcing him to be a veggie! If he wants you to cook for him he should eat what you cook

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7 months ago
Yes of course you should.

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7 months ago
Cook him meat.