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My family hates my husband
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To cut a long story short, my dad had an argument with my husband last week and said some pretty awful things to him. Tonight my grandma said some of the same things my dad said. My husband is a blunt kind of guy, likes to josh and says some pretty random stuff that obviously has been taken the wrong way. I feel like they are trying to get in between us. Not sure what to do. How do you deal with your fanily hating your husband?? Obviously im not speaking to anybody and nobody seems to care the predicament this puts me in.
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5 years ago
They are all being dumb dumbs because they are hurting the one person they ALL love - you.
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5 years ago
Does your husband hit you?
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5 years ago
No he wouldn’t dare
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5 years ago
My parents have done th same thing, and my mother is very two faced. At this point we just ignore her and distance ourselves. We are polite but no longer get upset by their bullshit.
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5 years ago
Maybe a simple apology is needed (perhaps from both sides, but someone has to go first). A simple ‘ I’m sorry if you were offended by what I said, that wasn’t my intention. Can we agree to disagree and move forward?’
I assume you have kids, and it would be a shame for them to miss out on having a relationship with their grandparents and even aunts and uncles because someone said something stupid or something was taken the wrong way.
If that doesn’t smooth things over enough to ease the awkwardness at family gatherings, maybe you do need to stay away for awhile. but it doesn’t have to be forever.
I assume you have kids, and it would be a shame for them to miss out on having a relationship with their grandparents and even aunts and uncles because someone said something stupid or something was taken the wrong way.
If that doesn’t smooth things over enough to ease the awkwardness at family gatherings, maybe you do need to stay away for awhile. but it doesn’t have to be forever.
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5 years ago
Maybe your husband try to stop saying things that clearly offend your family.
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5 years ago
Was this the argument about the sister?!
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5 years ago
I wondered that myself
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5 years ago
Hate is a strong word. Maybe just give it some time and see who is going to eat humble pie and apologise
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5 years ago
Distance
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5 years ago
You distance yourself. It's not your job to be their go between or the peace maker. If they want to say something to him, they can say it to him.
At this point, you need to think about which relationships you want to cultivate and which ones you are happy to step back from.
You don't even need to part from them dramatically. Just a simple "right well I'm going to be over doing life with George, you know where to find me if you need me".
You also need to remember that it doesn't have to be that way forever. Maybe a little break from being so close to your family will be the best thing for you all.
At this point, you need to think about which relationships you want to cultivate and which ones you are happy to step back from.
You don't even need to part from them dramatically. Just a simple "right well I'm going to be over doing life with George, you know where to find me if you need me".
You also need to remember that it doesn't have to be that way forever. Maybe a little break from being so close to your family will be the best thing for you all.