While I appear in court on Monday morning which I have to go into a safe room and pray the judge removes the rights of my daughters father under our dvo and fcc orders as we’ve received death threats, abuse, house ransacked, DVO breaches and my husband hit with a baseball bat and it thrown at my car. My daughter who is 8 testing positive to marijuana in her dads care... plus soooo much more!!

I have real problems I’m fighting in court, why the hell would you even bother taking this bullshit to court. You need to get over yourself, you are just another selfish, manipulative, mother!! You’re what ruins our image in court and has us all brushed with the same brush.

I would have if it made any difference.
I spoke to my ex about how it's good for the boys to to eat junk food and keep the couped up inside all weekend, but was ignored. It just made me be a better mum. I made sure my kids were well fed and got to play outside and had lots of fun. We all got mountain bikes and ended up having so much fun on my weekends the boys started to refuse to go to their dads. They still see their dad but don't have regular access anymore. He has no one to blame but himself.

Nasty Nasty Lady you are. Hope your kids dad gets custody

Jesus you sound like a munipluative bitch no wonder he divorced you.

This sounds like my weekends with my kids (I am a single mumma & have them 100 percent of the time.
We ate a whole caramel slice today. No video games however we watched a couple of dvds & watched heaps of shit on you tube. Btw Captain underpants movies are more fun while wearing undies on your head. Some other movies we watched may not be seen as appropriate in an uptight parents eyes, my kids know not to swear and laugh hysterically at movies like bad mums & bad teacher.
The only time we left the house was to go find my sisters dog we are dog sitting, he can’t get out of the yard but he’s deaf as a door nail.
I brought Thai takeaway last night for tonight so we didn’t even need to leave the house for that.

Your kids are lucky to have fox sports, they get all the nrl matches! A bit envious there!

Your ex is parenting his way. If the kids are safe and happy let it be. Many families are not strict on bedtimes on weekends with kids of their age.

Absolute waste of the family courts time. Family court needs to start with meditation, I am not sure these matters would even get past that stage. What on earth would you say to a family report writer?

His time NOT yours!! You can't dictate what goes on in another person's house.

I wish the dad of my kids will take them once a forth night, even if they just sit and watch tv! He has NEVER taken them over nights, sees them every 8 - 10 weeks for an hour or 2... If their dad wants to spend time with them just let him!

No, just slowly restrict access. We went through this and the kids couldn't live like that every other weekend. I got my kids involved in sport which dad wouldn't take them too, so rather than Friday night until Monday morning it was Saturday afternoon until Sunday lunch time.

That’s men for you, and if you try to explain it to another man (judge) you will genuinely confuse him and it will be thrown back at you.
I don’t think you are control freak at all.
I would pack lunch/dinner for the kids and him and let them have sweets and stay up late.
They will work it out when they are older.
Take the high road. Good luck

A judge will laugh at you. During his time it isn’t your business and the children can do as he pleases within reason. You’ll be made out to be snarky and vexatious

Im pretty shocked at the number of parents on here who don’t see how important routine, consistency and structure are for childrens life time outcomes.
I agree it’s not court worthy but I definitely wouldn’t be impressed if I was op either. I can only imagine how feral the children are when they come home to her after a free for all at dads house.
Dad will probably always be a lazy parent so I don’t see any short term relief for you op.

Dear me, did dad get a new girlfriend and you're upset.... Anything to pick

My mum and her siblings spend time with dad in the pub
Dad would go their afternoon with mates and mum and her siblings would sit in the corner crying or reading a book or colouring in

Go to mediation.

Wow! As the judge said to my ex and I. There is a special place in hell for parents that fight over nonsense and this lady is nonsense at its finest

Another mum creating issues 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Kids interaction with their father especially boys

It depends on how long he has them for. If it’s only a couple of nights a fortnight, let them have that. If not, then be an adult and a parent and go talk to him. Say you respect that what he does on his time with them is his business, as long as it causes them no harm, but you feel as though it would be better if they could have a more routined structure and some healthier choices regarding technology and food. If you take him to court you will just look vengeful and controlling. It isn’t a good look in the courts. So try to work it out first between just you two or go to mediation if you feel you or him will get heated, just so you have a neutral third party to calm the conversation. Taking the kids away from their father would be more damaging than what he is doing.

They see their dad, what. Maybe once a fortnight? If he wants to spend his time having a take away and sweets and having fun with his kids don’t ruin that because you just want to be a control freak! Grow up

It’s people like you they waste the courts time and have our actual serious cases held up.