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I now feel insecure.

Answered 3 months ago

I have a new partner and we’ve had sex a number of times now. My clitoris is very big but I’ve never had an issue until now, he made a comment and said that I have a small penis and moved my clitoral hood as if it was a foreskin and started to embarrass me about it. At the time I laughed it off with him but it’s just been on my mind ever since. How do I deal with this issue?


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3 months ago
Tell him that it makes you feel insecure and that you don’t find it funny when he says inappropriate things like that. If he still thinks it’s a good idea to make reference to your vagina make reference to his penis being ugly, smelly, cheesy or limp in bed. No one’s body is perfect. Most people don’t have attractive genitals. Porn gives people the wrong idea.

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3 months ago
Gee, that's a mature response that's sure to work an absolute wonder. And I think it was her vulva she's insecure about, not her vagina.

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2 months ago
Actually she said clitoris so you’re wrong too. And anyway, they’re all part of the vagina.

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3 months ago
Men are obsessed and intrigued by women's genitals. He probably meant nothing by his comments. Love your body and own your big clit! Knowing men, he probably actually loved it too but he expressed it badly and therefore inadvertently reinforced your thoughts about it. Talk to him.

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3 months ago
I understand how this would get to your feelings.
At first you said you laughed it off and later started too make you feel insecure.
Its really important to remember that we are our own harshest critic and bodys come in all shapes and form. I have never met anyone that doesn't have at least one pet peve about their body.
If he says it again make some remark along the lines of.. lett me take you up the a$$ with it then. Or atleast mines bigger.