I feel depressed. Someone just suggested my hsb get his own fb page instead of sharing mine. Then some of his friends li
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I feel depressed. Someone just suggested my hsb get his own fb page instead of sharing mine. Then some of his friends liked the post. I look like psycho controlling bitch wife.
Of course we share because he cheated im sure that's obvious to ppl well i thought it was. He joined countless dating sites via fb and had online relationships, fuck buddies, swapping pics buddies, online flirty friends, u name it he did it. Cheated in 'real life' and ive got the herpes to prove it. I never asked him to delete his fb as didnt want to control him but he chose to as the girls kept messaging once he was trying to behave....i.e once i found out. He has slipped in various ways during our whole marriage and my therapist thinks he has an online sex addiction and sharing a fb keeps him from temptation. I hate that ppl think i am preventing him from being independent and nervous as hell now that he will take their advice and get his own page. Im too old and too tired to worry about his cheating anymore if he does open a page i will say that's fine but we need to separate i seriously cant live with the worry of when he might slip next. I do wish i left him back when but i was so traumatised from my abusive ex i had no self esteem and thought i wasnt enough for him. Ill never ever trust him. If we break up i never want another relationship, between him and my ex i don't think i could take anymore. I dont believe there are good honest kind men. Feel like crap now its all on my mind again too ive never done anything to hurt any partner, nice people just get used and abused
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Also, I reckon I'd run my husband over if he gave me herpes and we'd definitely not need to worry about social media accounts. True story.
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The women that have physically fallen for him, he's probably manipulated them so far into the fog, they can't see him for the shitbag he really is.
HE made the choice to delete his Facebook.
HE made the choice to share yours.
HE made the choice to stray from your relationship.
HE is the one making a fool of you.
Now, let's take some ownership here:
YOU are the one who chose to stay.
YOU continue to stay.
YOU are the one who obviously didn't out him about his online cheating (why would his friends think you're controlling if they knew the whole story).
YOU are "so done" with men, but you're keeping this pig around whom you can't trust.
He broke your trust by cheating, and you're worried about whether his mates think you're controlling?
Baby girl, you need to end the relationship. Not because he's getting his own account (because he likely has a secret one anyway), but because the relationship is dead as is. You end it because he's a lying, cheating piece of shit.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AND LIVE IT!!
Fuck this pig man off, fuck his ridiculous dude-bro friends off, fuck off ANYONE that gives you herpes. Why are you staying??
Leave him. Leave him. Leave him. Leave him.
8+ BILLION people in this world and you stay with that one? Nah-uh. You're better than that.
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Keep your head up and be strong.
I have no answers, I can't imagine what its like but I do know one thing; where there's darkness there'll always be light. You'll be okay. You're stronger then you think. Best wishes matey xo