No, that is not fair at all. It should be equal or nothing. Sorry but he can not show favourtism to his daughter it is not right and will create major sibling problema later on. Also if you contributed to the fund you get a say. So make sure its equal!

Why are you paying for your adult children to do anything? They should be working.

Trust me, it will cause resentment between them if they aren't treated fairly. Why cant she study here?

She can share rent with flat mates get a job and defer her uni fees.

I'd be giving them all equal, otherwise where is the line? If another child wants a big wedding and another wants to elope does the more expensive one get to dip into the remaining funds allocated for the others? What if the youngest decides to study interstate as well?

No, you split all equally and they can choose what to use it for. If the others find out then you will have lifelong resentment. I certainly have it towards my brother getting more, regardless of the reasoning.

If the one moving needs money she can support her decision by getting a job. In fact, working in her Industry while studying is the best choice she can make as having experience will put her ahead of the graduating class.

I hope that helps.

Your kids should pay for own house and wedding
Don’t assume they will get married

Thanks I have moved the girls money until I can put it into trusts.

I would put the other two lots of savings in trust now! Or at the very least ensure your husband can not access it!
I didn’t go to uni or get married and have not yet brought a house.
All savings set aside for four kids paid for two of my siblings to go to uni and my sister to get married twice. Being single and getting a job out of school meant zero.
No point in holding grudges

Personally, I think it should be split equally between the 3 of them and they can decide what to do with it. If she wants to study interstate she can pay from her share.

Firstly just want to say good on you guys for even having savings to spare for your kids. That is amazing.

I think it depends on the kids. My mum didn't pay anything (nor did she have the money to do so) and I didnt expect it.

My husbands parents said we will pay for one degree to both of the sons. My husbands younger brother required a lot more help to get back on his feet after delving into some bad things... we said we didnt need anything.

The younger bro started 2 degrees locally and never finished. Went interstate to study another so they purchased a town house for him to live in and study. The parents paid for everything.

A lot of their money went to the younger brother and we were afraid for their retirement fund... however all is good now as the younger bro is independent now.

We did not feel any resentment as we can look after ourselves. And we are quite proud to be able to do so.

We have told them we dont need to be on the will too.

We are just one story. But I think it depends on your circumstance and you know your family x.

All the best OP