Partners son sleeping in our bed
Answered 1 year ago
My partners son is 6. We don't live together. I rarely stay overnight when he has his children and his son sleeps with him. On a handful of occasions when I have slept over I've made it clear that I am not comfortable if his son comes into the bed. I feel weird and its physically uncomfortable. I've asked that if he wants to cuddle to please take him back and stay in his bed.
He says he doesn't understand why I can't deal with it. Am I being unreasonable?
I'm very supportive and understanding of their close relationship so it's just this one boundary I'm asking to be respected.
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Stand your ground OP. The kid does not need to be in the bed!
I sat my partner down and said I have bought my home for my kids but my bedroom is my/our sanctuary. It is a kid free zone. They don’t come in unless invited. They don’t take my stuff if it’s in my room without asking. If the door is closed they knock. That I will never change and they have a whole house to be in and a bedroom of their own and they don’t need to be in mine. End of story.
I dealt with a 9 year old trying to sneak in for two years and my partner was told he is to get up, get the kid, and put him back to bed. And if he does it 100 times a night you must be firm and consistent. That kid tried everything from sneaking into the bed to sneaking into the room to sleep on the floor and sleeping on the couch outside our door.
Consistency paid off.
But I was also not budging at inch. If he asked his dad for a “sleepover” the answer is always no.