How can I deal with a MIL from hell that makes me so anxious and puts pressure on my relationship with husband which he
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How can I deal with a MIL from hell that makes me so anxious and puts pressure on my relationship with husband which he never even comments about what she is like. We have been married 7 together 9yrs
I first made a effort then once I could see it wasnt returned I stopped. She lives in the same small town. Not once have I been invited there. We now have a LO she luckily only visits on bdays, xmas etc. she makes no interaction with LO or me. doesnt wish me a happy birthday. I get a grunt when she comes in the house and that is it. When I had our son we had major complications and both were lucky to survive she told people there was nothing even wrong with me why would paper say there was.. my sons bday parties she stands away from everyone and doesnt interact just expects my husband or his brother to go to her. If anyone else trys she gives one word reply. I dont want her near my son, she smokes and always stinks of it, cant interact with him yet has her other grandkids come and stay or she stays there for weeks on end. she is a stranger to him but thinks he should kiss her cuddle her just cause she gives him a present when she sees him cause she only comes to visit on occasions
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We do not get on. In the past i was always pleasant and I'm not rude to her in person. Ive heard her on the phone to my husband and if she hears one of my kids (to my first marriage) she makes comments like what does that brat want? What's their problem? She should have raised them right.
She makes me anxious and her existence pisses me off.
However she gotta be nice to my face because I'm the mother to her grandchildren (although I'm pretty sure she's been waiting for me to drop dead so she can raise mine and my husband's children herself). She doesn't consider my first children as family at all, I'm pretty sure she doesn't even see them as related to her grandchildren. She's so manipulative though that my hubby can only see what she's really like about 10% of the time!
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Seriously? But of course my husband is too gutless to tell her he's happy and we're not separating and if we did, he's not moving in with his mother!
So annoying 😡