They kind of figure out who bought all that stuff when they discover Santa isn't real. So don't worry, I don't think it's a case of they'll never know. They know who put the effort in.

I know it was my mother because dad, while around, pretty much ignored me because I was a girl. DB got stuff from him, though. Kids understand a lot more than are given credit for.

I actually understand this, as a single mum whos childs father never financially contributed to xmas ever I hate that my child will think both parents paid when only I did. BuT as much as it annoys me when the time comes I dont think ill make a big deal of it. Kids happiness is worth more than how i feel. But i get where ur coming from. We sacrifice and go with out so much for our kids and they will never know.

^^my mother who had minimal child support from my dead beat father went without meals to feed us, clothe us, allow us to have extra curricular activities and give us a normal childhood. As kid we had no clue. We only found out recently what she sacrificed. She did it out of pure love and selflessness. She didn’t ask for thanks.

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Sorry just looked it up (should have done before my first comment 😂) the big secret: the whole and honest truth about Santa clause. As for what age, it’s up to you. Personally I’ve never told my kids Santa is real, we talk about Santa as a fictional character

I'd go along the lines of Santa isn't a person, it's an idea, a feeling of joy and happiness with a bit of magic. Once you know the secret, it's your job to keep that feeling going for believers. Try to change from the joy of receiving to the joy of giving.

Thank you so much OP here added that comment after thinking it added more info. Certainly hard to know when the right time is.

That each person's mum /dad/carer is entrusted wit Santa's role on Christmas Eve

Thanks