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How to cancel or withdraw notice of intended marriage

Answered 2 years ago

Meant to be 3 weeks away but I'm having cold feet


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2 years ago
You just call the celebrant and they will take care of it. If you are having second thoughts it's best to get it out in the open now. It's easier to cancel things now. My brother was left at the alter and the fall out on it was huge, I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone.

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2 years ago
That’s sad 😢 how long ago was this? Is your brother ok now?

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2 years ago
He was devastated, there was a huge falling out between our families as a result, which ended up with them trying to sue us, so he lost her family as well. They had big group of friends which also ended up divided. He is happy now, he took a friend on their honeymoon and then travelled for a while and came back happy enough.

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2 years ago
Wow! That's so messy

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2 years ago
Yes, it was all over a few silly comments as we stood around not knowing how to handle the situation.

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2 years ago
Do you two live together? Are you able to untangle your lives pretty easily or are things going to be messy? Most importantly, are you safe if you do this, or do you think he'll be a bit vindictive once he realises he's lost his easy ticket to citizenship?

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2 years ago
Thanks everyone. I emailed the celebrant first, she was good!
Then i told him maybe we should just cancel the wedding for now. And his response was "i don't know why you thought i had time for it anyway, were we going to do it while i was at work? "
(fyi he works 20-28 hours a week and he picked the time etc for the wedding). So i def did the right thing i think.
It just doesn't seem like an equal relationship. He's all take take take and if he gives anything, he makes the biggest deal like i should be so grateful he does anything.
I think he only wanted it to assist him in getting his citizenship tbh

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2 years ago
Wow. Yes you’re doing the right thing.

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2 years ago
It sounds like you dodged a bullet.

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2 years ago
You deserve love, equal partnership and joy. This guy is selfish and narcissistic, and sounds like he's gaslighting you too. Yes relationships require effort - but from both sides! I hope you can get out of this relationship quickly and safely.

Don't listen to him whine about you ruining his life, or you upsetting his family, or you being foolish and having cold feet, or you expecting too much from him, or how silly you are to want a partner who appreciates you. Dump him ASAP, being single is better than being with him.

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2 years ago
Good on you for listening to yourself. You should go into a marriage saying "YES!", if you feel like your answer is "um, I guess" or "I don't know" then postpone or cancel!

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2 years ago
If you have cold feet hun, but some socks.
If you're going to cancel, there has to be more of a reason. I wish you the best x

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2 years ago
You have to go to where you lodged it and ask to withdraw

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2 years ago
Just talk to your partner and tell him the truth