DON'T DO IT.

Terminate, then find someone who actually wants to share this life and love with you.

Nope they didn't come back in my situation. My advice, to save you hell down the track, give baby your last name, save save save, and if I had my time again, I wouldn't have put him on the birth certificate... Don't care how wrong or illegal it is, single mothers with dead beat dad's who refuse to pay child support and disappear shouldn't need there damn signature for pass ports and the like

I’m going through this right now, although I knew I was pregnant before he broke up with me. He would say he wanted to be with me then a week later say he didn’t. Last week he said for sure he didn’t want to work it out anymore. I give him updates, he has attempted to talk to me a few times but I have told him that unless it’s baby related we aren’t talking about anything. It’s been hard, really hard, but I’m not having my baby growing up in a family where she isn’t sure if mummy and daddy are together or not, and I am so done with crying over him. Now that I’m not waiting for him to change his mind or come back it has helped me accept that we won’t be getting back together and it’s for the best. I was sitting in your shoes two weeks ago hoping we could have have another chance and make our relationship work, wondering how I could get him to love me how I love him - now I’m accepting that it’s over and at peace with it. It’s relieved so much stress knowing he won’t be breaking my heart over and over. This may not be the success story you want to hear but it is a success for me, I learnt my worth and learnt to love myself enough to not settle for anything less than someone who loves me and wants me as much as I do them.

I found out I was pregnant after I was ghosted. I just thought it probably wasn't worth the hassle of having him in the child's life so I didn't tell him. I figured he would be with me if he wanted to, a child won't change that.

Yep, came back only to act like I owed them the world. Cheated within a few years and “blamed me” as I didn’t meet their ever evolving needs. Not to mention mine were irrelevant and unimportant to him. Don’t waste your time on someone who will always put himself first. He has no backbone, no sense of responsibility and if he is ever going to change it probably won’t be until after the birth (prepare yourself for a flake through the pregnancy), not at all, or in 10 years time after your child has been raised around a flake of a dad. Men typically aren’t as attached to a pregnancy as a women - it just isn’t so involved for them until after the baby is born. And depending if he has previous children or not (he might already be use to being a flake) could be a big indicator if he is even likely to change after his child is born. Good luck. Xx