Would it hurt to spend time as friends? Are your kids young enough to believe that 😂. I know most people say wait but I'm the opposite as long as there has been a fair amount of time since breaking up with the other parent. The reason I have for that is that I wouldn't want to waste my time with someone that parented drastically different to me, and I would also like to know what their children are like. Are they too much for me to handle for the long term or are my children too much for my partner? Does he treat them differently to his own kids? These kind of things are deal breakers and the sooner you find out all of this the better. You don't have to move in and have babies in a hurry but I see nothing wrong with going to the park once a week until things get more serious.

Just let him know you are enjoying spending time with him and getting to know him and you look forward to getting to know him more before introducing your kids.

“Hi hunny, I am not ready to introduce you to my children yet. I would like more time with you before you getting to know them.”

If he gets offended or hurt feelings by it then is that really someone you want to be with? Do you want someone who pushes you into situations that make you uncomfortable?