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15 year old son has girlfriend over. She is also 15 and I think they are having sex. Any advice?

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5 months ago
Whenever he has ANY friends over, leave the doors open to the bedroom or any other opportunity for sex.

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2 years ago
Umm this is actually illegal.

Age of consent is 16

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2 years ago
It depends on the state

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2 years ago
^Actually its illegal in ALL states. In all states age of consent is 16 or 17.
Don't enable them. They are children and laws are laws for a reason.

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2 years ago
She's am not telling them to have sex. She's being realistic.
Bury your head in the sand or confront the issue

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2 years ago
Facts are facts, shit for brains. It is illegal.

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2 years ago
I probably wouldn’t create opportunity if that makes sense at 15? They will have sex elsewhere but they may not have it as often if it’s hard for them to find somewhere.. so less chance of pregnancy? I’d give him lots of condoms too and find some way to have the talk

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2 years ago
I agree with this, don't create opportunities.

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2 years ago
This comment is ignorant.
"They will have sex elsewhere.... make it hard for them"

I'm sure OP wouldn't want her kid fucking his misso in the bush.

They're gonna fuck whether ya like it or not. At least give them a safe, controlled and educated space to fuck in.

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2 years ago
I think creating opportunities for 15 year Olds to have sex is irresponsible. Yes it will probably happen, and kids need to be educated on safe sex, but you don't need to be putting a sign up shag here!

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2 years ago
Condoms?

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2 years ago
Have given him some already. Single mum - he doesn't want to have "that" chat with me

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2 years ago
You probably should insist and make it a condition of her staying over. Not just about safe sex but making sure he understands what consent is. About respecting her right to say no. And equally, his right to say no.

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2 years ago
Are there any male relatives that can have "that" chat with him ? Otherwise you might be able to find suitable books. It is better that they are educated than take the risks that come with ignorance.

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2 years ago
Have him read a book on the subject and write down any questions on a piece of paper for the doctor

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2 years ago
Where did i come from book

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2 years ago
Where did I come from is for younger kids. I’m sure OPs son is well aware how babies are made.

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2 years ago
Tell them you have a good movie to watch and get popcorn and chocolates ready, get everyone comfy then set up an hour or so of really gruesome births on youtube.

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2 years ago
Guaranteed safe sex.

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2 years ago
I fucking lol at this lol

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2 years ago
Brilliant! Lol

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2 years ago
Or knocked up haha

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2 years ago
Nanna

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2 years ago
Bogan

ANSWER
2 years ago
I have teens and we let them have boyfriends/girlfriends over but not in bedrooms. Once they are 17 they can have partners stay over on Friday and Saturday nights only if they have been together a while, and they treat us with respect.

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2 years ago
I told my kids if they get pregnant or get their girlfriends pregnant that I am not looking after that kid. Yes I will offer support, but I’m not raising it. I tell them kids are bloody hard work. You can’t stop your kids but educate them.

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2 years ago
Educate them. Don’t punish they’ll hide it and end up pregnant or worse

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2 years ago
What do you want to happen? They won’t stop having sex if you say you don’t approve. You could ban her from the house, but they will find somewhere else to go. And you’d possibly alienate your son. Probably what you would do is set some boundaries. For example..... She can stay overnight only on certain days. Her parents need to be aware of where she is. And of course, and most importantly you need to have the safe sex talk. Not sure there is more you can do beyond that.

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2 years ago
This was my way of thinking. I know what teenagers are like and know they will find a way if they want to. I have spoken with my son and told him that she is welcome in our home and that I would rather them hang out here than anywhere else. Thank you for your comment, it's basically clarified what I was already thinking just wasn't sure