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Why is mild alcohol abuse so accepted when everything else is frowned upon

We're heading out tonight and i can already hear the gasps of disbelief i will get when i eventually have to say no thanks i don't drink alcohol. It's a personal choice, i have nothing against it i just really don't like the affect it has on me, or the hang over! I do however smoke on occasion (i know it's bad i don't need the lecture and i am working on quiting) but i am constantly lectured by people who drink to excess on a regular basis about how bad smoking is. This double standard annoys me. Why can't i point out that peoples excessive drinking is not only bad for them it usually turns them into dickheads but they are allowed to tell me off for something i do. And I'm not a rude smoker, i don't do it in public or inside even if it's ok with the host, i always walk away from people and make sure the smoke doesn't affect anyone else. Yet their drinking usually does affect other people. Why is this ok in Australia

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All to do with whats socially acceptable. There's a lot of things that are extremely unhealthy and have a hugely negative effect on our country as a whole, yet continue to remaqin social norms. I'm afraid this country needs a huge shake up when it comes to what is concidered normal.

Lol!!! I'm so glad someone sees it my way I'm constantly standing up for my mum who is ... In all fairness a bad smoker but a considerate one ,. By my dad who drinks at least one scotch a night and my brother who's diet is very poor and he is over weight and everyone else in between.
I myself like to smoke weed every 6 months ... I don't drink since having kids and am extremely fit very clean diet and once in a while I book q hotel have a smoke get a massage smoke watch TV and sleep in a big a*s comfy bed with no littles ...
And when some people find out in the most horrible person in the world cos I "do drugs" I just laugh as they drink coffee every day are completely addicted to sugar drink alcohol most weekends. But it's really bad and unhealthy of me to have a joint twice a year hypocrisy is everywhere with people - it's why I can't be bothered judging people cos I know I probably do something hypocritical along the way 😂

OP This is great! My husband and i sometimes have a joint or 2 whrn the kids are at our parents, its a bit of fun once or twice a year!
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 Lol hubby joins me when my parents come over from WA!!
We just smoke eat and have really good sex all night .... Always puts a little spark back in 😉

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 Great example you are setting for you kids guys. Go you
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 Also it's a bit sad you have to use drugs to put the spark back in your relationship
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 hahahah ☝🏻️ Sounds like you need it. !!!
And yep 22 years of marriage 30 years together never come close to separating 5 kids toddlers in our bed for 15 years.

We set a fantastic example for our kids. Thanks for your concern... Also been very honest with our eldest 2 about drug use and talked about our own experiences and have managed so far to raise two responsible adults who've stayed clear from stupid teenage shit and always been responsible with substances.
A lot of their friends who made some big mistakes or got blind wasted at our house all came from homes with very straight parents- who I could very much imagine saying something you just did 😂😂

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 Love how you had to write that big speel to try and justify your drug use. And if you smoke drugs most likely your children will. Mine think people that smoke week are dirty bogans 😘😘😘
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 Oh so you attribute your relationship lasting so long to your use of "substances"? Hubby and I don't need anything for our spark. It's natural baby 💥💥💥
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 Hahaha you really do need something to lighten up. 😘😘😘😘😘
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 You wish love. My life is great I don't need an escape like you do
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 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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 You are a hypocrite! You are complaining about the bias about alcohol, the stigma of smoking and complaining that you get hounded when you don't drink. As soon as someone disagreed with you, you told them they need a smoke?! You are exactly the same! Idiots!
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 Yet here you are spending a Sunday morning trying to making an annonomous stranger feel bad ??? Go play with your kids babe....
(And no I know what your gonna say- and I don't feel bad- that is what you are TRYING to do.)

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 If you read my comment again... I said I don't judge either way for the fact that no matter what it ends up being hypocrites... Just trolling the trolls love. 😘😘
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 Are you guys high right now? Or just stupid from all the lost brain cells?
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 I love my babies and would never leave them to go smoke weed at a hotel!! Gross and seedy 😷😷😷
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 Here trolli troll troll....
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 Aw you sound a bit stressed, lucky for you you have a substance for that! 😘😘
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 🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀🍀
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 Aw you cheeky housos 😉 just love it don't you
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 I hate people who smoke weed on a regular basis, you know the full stoners. I actually think it is good you do it away from your children and you are only doing it twice a year. I don't see it any different to people going away and getting shit faced on alcohol, except you are probably being more responsible.
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Pretty sure every smoker thinks they aren't obnoxious

 Same with non smokers like you
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 At least I don't smell or have scummy rank teeth xx
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I don't allow drinking in my house. Smoking is ok outside.

I agree. My dad is a smoker and everyone lectures him on quitting but I'm more concerned about the bottle of wine he drinks every night he can go without cigarettes but not alcohol.
I have the occasional drink but if I say no I get the third degree! Pregnant? Driving? Sick? No, I just don't need to drink every time I go out.

I quit smoking when i was 2 wks pregnant. ... that's how i found out i was pregnant. ...threw up when i lite up. My mil tried to tell me i was doing the baby harm by going cold turkey....than months later she told me to smoke if i wanted to i am not an incubator!
Oh and the drinking..i have never drank much..... i got asked if i.was preg 100 times before i was. If i didn't turn up with booze she would tell me to pop down to the bottlo because she was nearly out and i couldn't have hers. I got all kinds of questions like was i broke because i was not drinking

The blatent hypocrisy I got when I was pregnant amazed me. I stopped drinking and smoking before we started trying to concieve and I got judged for doing it in the first place by people with cigarette in one hand and drink in the other. I have never been able to stand wine but upon announcing the birth of my child and the resulting visitors, I have accumulated a collection of over a dozen bottles 😕

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I agree with you completely. I dint smoke weed and don't condone it, but u don't get wasted on a weekly basis and condone that either. I have smoked cigarettes and the judgement that goes with that is ridiculous! Most people have vices but some are 'acceptabke' because they're more widespread and identifiable.

Op is jumping on other threads attacking every single comment because it's the same person who upset her lol

 Apparently there is only one person on this whole site
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OP Actually I'm not because i ticked the box that says OP ✔✔✔
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 It's not going to show up in other threads is it
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I choose not to drink too, it just doesn't do anything for me. But I cop a lot of crap, mostly from family. My dad pours me a wine even though I say no then hassles me that I am not drinking enough.

So true. I don't drink due to a health condition, need to keep as healthy as possible. I don't want to disclose my private business to every second person but people seen to even get annoyed with me for not drinking! I usually ask for an orange juice in a short glass and everyone presumes it's an orange and vodka.. But I shouldn't have to do that really

OP Exactly! I got told i was either pregnant or a recovering alcoholic once when i said i don't drink! Even if i was, it's no one's business
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 I would never smoke either though
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