Practical Advice: How to trust again?

Answered 4 years ago

About 2 years ago I went through a very messy and bitter separation, it's finally ended (family, property etc etc) and now I am in a new relationship that by all means seems to be going well. However after over 15 years of emotional abuse from the ex I have picked up a lot of trust issues that unfortunately I can see them impacting my new relationship. Of course I don't want that. I have been through counselling but I can't seem to get clear strategies on how shift my thoughts and behaviours. Googling the subject does somewhat help, but I wanted to see if any SAHM readers had ideas of things they do to navigate and learn to trust again? How do you recover? Is it just time?

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4 years ago

Seeing a therapist would help. I went through a nasty divorce and I also have trust issue from it. One day at a time. Im5remarried and although I still have trust issues I am taking baby step. My first step was I had to forgive ex not for him bur for myself. Once I did that I had to deal the the trust issue. I had to stop comparing my now husband to my ex. It's not easy but I had to give the benefit of the doubt to my husband and say no matter how hurt I am by ex you are not him. I say this every day. I would say just be honest and open with yourself and partner. Wishing you all the best.

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